conversion with my daughter's boyfriend. I would like to step in as a mother and advise my daughter what to do but then again I'm just a mom any suggestions. This other girl just needs to leave my daughter's boyfriend alone. He doesn't like it when my daughter receive text from other guys but here he is receiving text from this one girl and has pictures of other girls on his cell phone. what to do as a mother who doesn't want her daughter hurt?!!!!!
2006-09-25 01:27:10 · 4 answers · asked by Kathi T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
honestly you have to let your daughter grow up and learn about these kinda things for herself. but if you want to get involved with it anyway tell your daughter to ask him why he doesn't respect her by following his own rules. I'm sure he would blow his top if the shoe were on the other foot.
i guess the best thing is to just be there for her in case she does end up getting hurt after all you are her mother.
2006-09-25 01:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing is the hard thing. The easy thing is to confront your daughter and let her know that you know she's being made a fool of and this guy's no good for her and she should kick him to the curb.
This is also the most satisfying thing, except to maybe kick him to the curb yourself...
The Right Thing, the hard thing, is to let your daughter handle it on her own, and let her learn how to deal with one of life's problems. Nobody wants their child to be hurt - we remember what it feels like and we want to spare our babies. The fact is, though, you won't be doing her any favors, especially if she backs off and lets you handle this. She needs to learn about relationships and what she'll stand for.
If you want to continue having a good relationship with your daughter, and hope someday to have grandchildren that you see all the time and a son-in-law that you love, start right now developing the habit of minding your own business in this kind of thing. You don't want to start managing her love life. If your daughter comes to you and asks for your advice, then it's OK to tell her what you would do if you were in her position. Otherwise, bite the bullet and let her think you're ignorant of the situation, letting her save face in front of you.
If you step in, you run the risk of having her turn on you for talking bad against her boyfriend, and that will make her get even closer to him. Then they'll both be mad at you. What if they get married later on? You don't want your daughter to think you started hating her husband before they were even married.
Forget it. Let them hash it out, and thank God you're past that kind of thing. If this guy's a real bum, your girl will figure it out and do what she thinks is best for her.
2006-09-25 01:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by barbertono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to see your daughter hurt, but I think you should stay out of it and let your daughter handle it. You can't fight all your daughters battles and if she really likes this guy and you interfere in the relationship, this guy might choose to leave her and your daughter will be blaming YOU for it. Let your daughter handle it. Just give her suggestions and your opinion. It's up to your daughter to decide what to do next.
2006-09-25 01:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave that mess along it is only so much that a mother can do and this is not the case.
2006-09-25 01:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋