I'm always very jealous, when I see pretty girls, I'm quite good looking and get a lot of attention from blokes, but I don't feel good about myself, in fact I feel really ugly sometimes, I got turned down by a bloke a few months ago, he had just split with his girlfriend and he was goin on about how nice looking she was, so now I feel down on myself, and whenever I see anyone pretty, I get really jealous, I feel so ugly and inadequate! what can I do to overcome this?
2006-09-25 01:23:08 · 15 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Be Happy what you have got. And feel contented. Contentment is a very great blessing. So choose ONE and remain with him. He must be MR PERFECT in your eyes and mind. He should be the SUPER MAN of your world. Let others feel jealous now.
2006-09-25 01:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Didn't your mother ever tell you that beauty comes from the inside? Don't focus so much on the outside- if you are attractive- you will be even more so when you are beautiful on the inside. Haven't you ever noticed how popular some girls are that are just average looking but they radiate personality and confidence and people are attracted to that as much as if not more than just good looks. Focus on your other attributes- like personality- and by the way jealousy is not attractive- especially in someone who is good looking. I have never had a problem attracting men, I am told I am beautiful- but I have always focused on the inner beauty- and making sure I look good- making the most of my assests. Next time you see a good looking girl instead of being jealous- try to figure out what makes her so good looking and try to imitate it- (as a learning tool) whether it is clothes, make up or attitude. Learn from these people. Good luck and relax- don't let one guys opinion affect your whole outlook.
2006-09-25 08:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by threedognitemare 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We all look at others and think they are so much prettier. They look back at you and think the same way too. That bloke was prob just missing his girl and still had baggage. Anyway, we can never be anyone else. We just have to look at our selves and make the best of who we are! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. While one may think someone isn't their type another will be in awwe! So get some confidence and make the best of who you are!
2006-09-25 09:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by lees girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your in shallow water just checking the outside appearance. I do believe that many people judge you first on what they see, those types of people opinions don't matter at all. Go deeper and see who you really are. the greatest thing that you can do is love yourself when you do people will see that and are attracted by your self esteem. the truth is we all sometimes feel inadequate.
as far as the other guy he is still Hung up on the other girl and that has nothing to do with you.
how to get pass this is...make a list of the things that you do not want once you have this list go back line by line and write the opposite thing down now you have a list of what you want focus on that list daily and in short order you will feel much better about the things that you can offer.
2006-09-25 09:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Great question...
I am not the jealous type...it doesn't suit me!
You just got to find the right kind of bloke that will make you feel wonderful on the inside, the outside bit will fall into place from there...
'Bloke' - you must be English, Welcome...there are not many of us on this site!!
2006-09-25 08:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ichi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To feel jealous of another person is to feel insecure about yourself, as this is where jealousy stems from. You are suffering from low self esteem...why do you feel these girls are better than you? What do they have to offer that you don't? These are questions you have to ask yourself when the green eyed monster comes knocking. There is no need to feel jealous over another person...we are all different AND we are all one of a kind...there is no one else in this world exactly like you! So if you think of it that way, how can you compare yourself when you are a one of a kind work of art?? It's all a matter of changing your mindset.
2006-09-25 08:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i used to get very jealous and couldnt see that i was beautiful or any of the attention i was getting i was in a depression i would try to figure out ways to better myself but then i started becoming some one i didnt want to be so i just stopped... i stopped thinking about my looks so much not that i didnt take care of myself and i also stopped thinking about guys and the less i thought of them the more they came around just forget about the rest of the world and see yourself as the beauty queen you really are dont be to quick to want a guy in your life when its right it will just happen just go with the flow and let things happen and jealousy is nature just dont let yourself get consumed by it and by the way dont pay any attention to that jerk that said you werent pretty only ugly people put down others you do have to be beautiful on the inside to
2006-09-25 08:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You seem a little hung up on looks. Myself, I think I am pretty good looking, I get stared at but sometimes my husband makes comments about other girls and I make comments about other guys to each other but I am not jealous because I know he loves me because I am smart and funny and interesting and a good friend. Guys are always going to look at other girls but that doesn't mean they want them. If they think you have nothing else to offer and are really insecure then they might though. There is nothing more unattractive then girls who need to validate themselves by asking questions like this. I mean you also should have the self confidence to ditch a guy who thinks its okay to go on about how hot his ex is. That is just him looking for validation.
You know what? I used to have a friend that was so gorgous and exotic looking that guys would fall all over themselves to near her. Unfortunitely she was so parinod and insecure that most guys couldn't stand her for long. I even stopped talking to her because I got sick of it.
How do you get over this? Just grow up and realize that there is always some one prettier and better out there then you and that you have things about you that are special outside of how you look and guys notice those things too if you act like yourself and down play games with him. And you won't feel as jealous when you are with a guy who like you for you.
2006-09-25 08:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Jealousy is an unproductive emotion. You said you are pretty and feel ugly. Work on you inner beauty and you will be beautiful.
2006-09-25 10:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by RayRay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it happens to alot of people. i mean i do it all the time eveytime i see i a pretty girl i get jealouse its in our nature. i mean im pretty alot of people tell me i am but its not u hateting yourself its you just feeling like down i think the guy who talked about his ex was just on a rebound he wasnt over her so why are u stressing on him. u get alot of attention so if i was you i'd grab it and stick to fingures up at any one who says anything eles!
2006-09-25 08:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by mistry_shalini 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋