My girlfriend husband left her; and didn't have much contact with her for over a year. Now all the sudden he wants to be nice to her and her kids. He realized that he lost a good thing. She decided to cut all ties with him, and not let him back into their lives. She has moved on, but is not in a relationship with anyone. This is her healing process, and I know that he is cunning enough to distract her. Now he decided to have an relationship with her 2yr old neice. I feel that he is using this baby to have some sort of contact with her. Her sister doesn't understand.
2006-09-25 00:58:29 · 7 answers · asked by babydoll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she's been a strong woman for this long, hopefully she has friends that can help keep her strong since obviously her sister is unable to right now. as long as she concentrates on her life and her kids she will be all right. but it seems like her sis needs some help. why in the world would she let a man that has mistreated her sister have a relationship with her child unless the child is his. best i can tell you is to just be a good friend, don't get too deep into her personal affairs but don't be too far away in case she needs you.
2006-09-25 01:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to understand. There is no emotional abuse. Abuse is a term which is being diluted by overuse. Black eye, broken arm now there is abuse. As for emotional conflict, since it is entirely non physical can only occur with her permission. If she is being used as the proverbial doormat it is with tacit approval. The only way for this to stop is for her to stop it. What you are telling us is that your friend is not smart enough to see by some sort of ruse by he EX. You can only advise her to be suspicious of motive and leave it at that.
As for the abuse label, remember the cliche, sticks and stones.
It is so true. Words can not hurt you.
2006-09-25 08:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu're not in much of a position to do anything but simply tell your friend that while reconciliation is fine and wonderful, it should only be considered if he has PROVEN to her that he has changed and has a whole new outlook on being a husband and father. Otherwise, you must be supportive......even when our friends make mistakes that hurt them, we have to be around to pick up the pieces.
2006-09-25 08:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will just have to be strong and make it clear in no uncertain terms that she will not go back to him. It may take awhile but eventually hard-head will get the message. Mine did after about 6 months.
2006-09-25 08:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by S G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be her guardian, she needs to stand up for herself, she'll only use you as a crutch if you do
2006-09-25 08:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this effects your every day living how?
2006-09-25 08:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only your friend can decide when enough is enough of his abuse.being her friend is all you can be it's up to her.
2006-09-25 08:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋