At school i was bullied really bad by a group of boys,they would criticize everything about my looks,i got really depressed,i didnt go to some of my exams because i couldnt take what they were going to say to me,basically they ruined my life,im so angry i let this happen,but i dont know how to get rid of these feelings as it still affects me now,i try so hard not to hate what i see in the mirror,but its so difficult when ive been told that im so hideous,i dont want to be so concerned of what people are thinking of me,and i dont want to be so shallow as to think that you have to be pretty to succed,as i know this isnt true(although it must help abit)has anyone else ever felt like this?how do you accept yourself when other people dont?
2006-09-25 00:52:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
One has no right or reason to critize for judge another human being.Often times hun,it is done because they cannot stand for people to be happy because they arent,so they make you miserable right along with them.I can say one thing you can do,simply ignore it.Disregard everything they have to say,not only about your looks but anything in general because if they critize simple things like that,then they are going to critize everything else as well and that is somethat one should not do.Focus on your studies,and keep walking when they speak this way.You know they are wrong,and deep down maybe a small portion of you inside feels they are right,but they are not.We are all different and unique just how we are supposed to be.Once you get rid of that portion of yourself who feels that way,then you can eliminate this all together until then it isnt going to go away.You have to feel good on the inside in order to feel good outside,and once that shows everyone will know it,and then just then will they realise you are who you are and there isnt nothing they can do to bring you down.Hold your head up hun,and work on finding that portion of yourself who feels they are right and fix it because you can,and do it because you can prove them wrong and prove to them that what they say means NOTHING.Good luck.
2006-09-25 01:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i can understand how you feel because i went through the same thing when i was in high school..i'm a senior in university now and i think i've changed a lot since those bad bad school days..
anyways, if i feel that someone might not like me or that people might judge me, i just tell myself that i'm a good person even though some people might not agree with that..
i think you're a beautiful girl :).. the people who bullied you in high school, it could have been because they were probably jealous of you for some reason! i believe that when you're jealous of a person, you start to hate them for no reason and consequently, start being mean to them too..
i know it's hard not to think about it but just accept yourself the way you are :), and if you ever see those bullies around later, just ignore them..i see my high school bullies at university all the time and i just don't look at them, like they didn't exist!!!
2006-09-25 08:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Lady in Pink ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize the true nature of what you are and what surrounds you. Nothing is forever. Everything changes. Now, why do you care what people think? Why does that make you angry? Questions that lead you down the path of self realization. You must insist on exploring your emotions until you realize that what happened is irrelevant to the greatness of the entity you are and carry inside
2006-09-25 08:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by fukallmonkeys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brightong: It's the bullies that have a problem, NOT YOU! How dare they, to
lose your confidence and make you feel bad about yourself, so come on
girl, pick yourself up, dust yourself down, be strong, go shopping (best
recommended therapy) buy yourself a few new things etc., etc., and most
importantly you are a WINNER, and keep repeating that in your mind if
you start to feel down. Why? Because, I SAID SO!
Best Wishes.
Lain.
2006-09-25 08:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by LAIN E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats sad. You know most people tease others because they're jealous or have someothing they want, ya know? People hate...and until you can just breathe and let that all go...it will affect you. As long as you don't have any hate in your heart, your a good person and thats all that matters. Gotta keep ya head up. i am very sorry people have teased you. Nobody deserves that.
2006-09-25 07:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to see your soul and spirit, you have to love and like your appearance whatever it is.. Always you have to know that there is nobody hideous at all. you can make your self as pretty as your soul is.
Don't listen to others, always you will find somebody who criticises anything even it's so pretty they will look for something to criticises .. so don't be depressed and live your life as you want .
everyone in the world has his opinion, may what you see ugly other see it so beautiful.
2006-09-25 08:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sousy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont mind what they say about your looks..coz everyone is unique..and if those poeple are not important to you..so why bother about what they say to you..!just be what you are ..and dont change yourself or your look because other people dont like it..!!
2006-09-25 08:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by mr. M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on! you have to beleive in yourself. sooner or later you'll realize that it doesnt matter what people think. if you have friends that love you then your ok.
2006-09-25 08:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by fukuoka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is v.hard and takes alot of self -esteem and courage. its learning to accept yourself as who you are and not someone you want to be... its about fullfilling your goals and boosting yourself to another level... xxx
2006-09-25 08:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by TMFULP. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore everything
2006-09-25 07:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by haringrobert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋