this seems to be the latest taboo. and an issue that is personally effecting me as an indian girl in a very serious relationship with a black guy. i dont know if i can come with all the issues it would arise from everyone. even my own generation (i'm in my 20s- ) clearly has issues with it. id ont know if i can put my parents through the rejection they would feel from their own community . i dont want to play out a romeo and juliet story but in any other circumstance i would not think twice of this guy being my future husband. and i still do to an extent. but the people who say 'its your life' clearly arents asian and these family pressures have been embedded into me since the day i was born. i know that doesnt justify other peoples stereotypes but its not a simple choice. i know what i believe ethically and morally but should i use my own life as a gunieapig for the progression of broken racial boundaries?
2006-09-25 00:47:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What an awful situation for you. I can't say I've ever experienced anything like it myself. I suppose it comes down to a choice between who you love most. Could you bear to lose him to conform to what is expected of you? Could you bear to lose touch with your family to be with the man you love?
I really feel for you because we can't always choose who we fall in love with and sometimes it happens to be someone we 'shouldn't' love.
You don't say whether your family know that you're dating him, or dating at all. If you are close to your parents, and they are understanding people, you could maybe introduce them to him. Maybe if they could see how happy you are with him they would want you to be together. Or maybe that's just my rose-tinted glasses again.
To follow your heart always requires courage, and you're on a well-travelled path. If whites and blacks had not had relationships and faced condemnation all those generations ago then we would not have advanced as far as we have.
But the decision has to be yours and you owe it to yourself to pick whichever option makes you happiest.
All good wishes and the best of luck. I'll be thinking of you.
2006-09-25 01:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know with your culture beliefs you don't want your family to be rejected or embarrass because of you , but it's 2006, you have to live for you and not everyone else .
2006-09-25 00:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by alh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no bounderies.
2006-09-25 01:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋