hubby wants a baby, i do to but i'm a bit aprehensive, i know it would be a massive change, are these feelings normal or am i not ready yet?
2006-09-25 00:31:05 · 15 answers · asked by jen_82_m 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Obviously its a life changing decision, that two people have to
agree on before deciding whats best for them. If you are open to the idea of pregnancy and motherhood you have a good foundation to work on.
I suggest you talk more to your husband, and maybe to your mother or mother in law, and friends that have children. You cant take the baby back if you find motherhood isnt for you so i really think if you talk to your family that it would help you.
Careers and other things may be on your mind too, im 28 weeks pregnant and luckily ive so far had a brilliant pregnancy.. im looking forward to my baby arriving, but im also apprehensive and a little worried i wont cope, but i have a good support network and know ill make it work either way.
Good luck..
2006-09-25 03:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Agent_of_Chaos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definately put a hold of things for now. You need to be 100% certain that it's what you want before you go for it, because it will completely change your life.
Just hold things off whilst you have a think about it - are prepared to make all the sacrafices, can you afford it, what it will stop you doing, how will it change your relationship with your husband, etc.
Also, if you do it and you're not ready, you may end up resenting your husband and your child, so make sure you're ready first.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 00:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those feelings a pretty normal, especially since you will be the one that carries him/her for the 9 months and it is your body going through all the changes..It is enough to make everyone nervous. There are also major financial, lifestyle and personal changes that go along with having a child..it is definitely something to think through well. Although I do want to say that having a child is one of he biggest joys in the world and is amazing. You will know in your heart when you are ready hun.
2006-09-25 00:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal feelings. It is a big change, but not all about bad change. Some of the biggest joys in life are experienced watching your child develop/ experiencing things for the first time, and your coupling/marriage turned into a family.
Be happy he's told you he wants one. Loads of ladies on the flip-side who want a baby and hubby says no.
2006-09-25 00:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These feelings are perfectly normal. You may want to talk to your husband about your feelings, you two might be able to come to a compromise. Having a baby is a massive change. It depends on how you handle change, and a sense of humor, really.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 00:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by mindrizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess u r not ready yet. Don't hurry up... Enjoy your life... Have a baby when you want and feel ready... It's a big decision that will really change your life without turning it back...
2006-09-25 00:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will be worried not just cause u not sure but if it will go OK will the baby be healthy etc I'm trying at mo with my hubby to be and I feel the same just talk though concerns and see how u feel do it when it feels right
2006-09-25 00:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by spiritdolphin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there ever a good time to have a baby?? Its always gona be scarey, but they bring such a lot of fun and joy!! Make sure you have a lot of support around you and plenty of babysitters. Talk to your hubby about your fears and go for it!!!
2006-09-25 01:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to have a baby then that is all that goes through your mind but it is normal to have a few doubts you will instinctively know when you are ready it will just be the natural thing
2006-09-26 02:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by KEL B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im funny about this , id say i need one to make me a better man,
but frankly the costs and the potential to be pissed off are there too , but i still would rather have made a glad choice down the road to remember the days of my childs youth when i am lonly.
its a warm feeling you cant replace with lies and beer !
cheers
2006-09-25 00:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋