2006-09-25 00:12:48 · 28 answers · asked by Manda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know what kind of person your talking too, but I'm a Military Wife and "The military life is Hard!!!" And most people that find out I'm in the Circle of Military say well "Tell your Husband thank you for everything he's doing for us!" So whoever your talkin to apparently has a screw loose. No I don't just go out and have a big sticker on my shirt that says "MilitaryWife" I do have the support my husband and My Yahoo signature says "Sexually deprived for you Freedom!!" haha thats a joke but I do have one. BUT I don't just go out and make it a main topic and talk about it all the time. If I'm in a conversation for more than 30 minutes, it might come up! And if your husband is deployed, more than likely you need a pity party. Don't worry what people say, If their not in the Military "They have no Clue" Raise your chin and deal with what you can. I hope this made some kind of sense. If not, disregard. But if you ever need to talk and have a pity party I won't down you for it., My email is Julezw29@yahoo.
2006-09-25 01:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by AngWings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sad. Some of these answers are dead on. They obviously haven't been involved with the military. The old saying goes that a wife or family doesn't take priority in the military man's life because he wasn't ISSUED one. If a military man gets into a fight at a club and injured. The other party can be charged with destruction of government property. At the same time the military does expect its people to be responsible for their families. A military family member must be careful about their true feelings when dealing with the public or there could be repercussions. Also, while so many personnel are overseas , back home their are many enlisted who bring in such a low income that they qualify for free milk programs (WIC) and (food stamps). That is very difficult on a family. Also, the frequent and long seperations from home puts added pressures on them.
Some bases still have sub-standard housing that the families live in.
The military pays for all of the training so that is the trade off. Paid Training for Low pay.
2006-09-25 08:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a few reasons:
Some people just like to ridicule and make fun and then again some veterans (me included) feel that some individuals (not necessarily you) join the service so they can get their education paid for and then when the crap hits the fan, they don't want any part of serving their country anymore and complain that life is just too hard in the military.
I've been there and was proud to serve and asked nothing in return but I also know that military life can be difficult at times and that it is not for every one.
I don't know if you are in the military or are a spouse of military, but either way you are in the "military".
Be proud and when your end of active duty comes - decide where you will be better off and make the changes you need to make.
To answer the other part of your question - just ignore those who like to leave rude comments - they don't know you !
2006-09-25 08:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think it is appropriate to be rude to you but I do sometimes have a hard time understanding why people stay in the American Military. I was contracting in Afghanistan for a year and a half with the Canadian Military and I was shocked how badly the American military are treated by there own government. You guys get hardly any leave and have tours that are a year or longer. A few of the American officers told me that they have the highest divorce rate of any military. Obviously family values aren't that important to them. But I think to most people when you and your husband have decided that you will both continue like this inspite of the damage to your marriage and your child it just appears irresponsible.
I know you are going to get people saying that they just appriciate that you are fighting for there freedom, and I know that is BS but I think you may believe that what you are doing is right and I can respect that but what is the price of this freedom. Your family will never have the freedom to have a normal life because you have both opted to stay in the military and I personally think that is wrong.
Like I said that doesn't mean people should be rude. I know what it is like being in theatre and how it messes with you and it is harder when you are away from a child and spouse. But you know how people are in theatre too and you know that if one of you hasn't screwed around that one of you will, do you really want that for your marriage and an example to your child.
2006-09-25 07:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because there is no draft anymore, most people can "elect" to not have military experience. So the few like you who choose to serve bear a greater responsibility for defending our country with all of the sacrifices that that implies. It is probably particularly difficult if you are a woman in the military. If your acquaintances think the military is such an easy "gig" ask them to sign up to go to Iraq. That will shut them up!!!
2006-09-25 07:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad was a serviceman in the ROYAL AIR FORCE(40 yrs)and apart from "unaccompanied tours",my mum and us kids followed him to many different country's.I'm sure many military people know that a new school every year or so is quite the norm for their kids(mum sorts out)also mum being the only one there to pack the family belongings for the next posting,and unpack at the other end(again,mum sorts out)-the hardest part from mums point of view was that she could not adapt to "civvie street"when my dad had "done his time" as quickly as he did-she would start to pack every year or so-automatically...so yeah,military life CAN be hard,fully agree with you-so don't listen to people who don't know these things-they're talking out their azzez!!!
2006-09-25 09:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 68 yrs. old. And have been there. I am a veteran of Korea. So I know military life is hard. But don't be misled. Life is hard no matter where you are or what you're doing. Just remember anything worth doing is worth doing well. I applaud you for hanging in there.
2006-09-25 07:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military life is hard. First they don't really pay the soliders a lot. Then they move them all around without any notice. Then they stick them in a war that's not necessary. Yes, it is hard and you are only seeking out understanding from others. I hope things get better for you and your family soon.
2006-09-25 07:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People can be cruel. They get their jollies by putting others down. I guess they feel bad about themselves and need to drag others down their level.
I thank and honor all military families - they defend the rest of us and make great sacrifices.
They are among the LAST people I would criticize.
I wish the government did more for them than they do!
PS People should take their energy and search for websites where they can send letters, packages, etc. to soldiers, and otherwise aid their families.
Some people here have rocks in their head instead of brains.
2006-09-25 07:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes that life is hard but that shouldn't have come as a surprise.the life of a soldier is the protection of our country not just a place to go for college money or to travel the world.you will find pride in yourself upon completing your service and know that you have helped keep this country free. I am proud of the people who risk their lives for our freedom and respect all that serve the military for I am not one who could have done it. you people are special.
2006-09-25 07:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋