I have been seeing my girlfriend now for some months now. She has previously been married for 7 years and has been seperate for 2 years. They still talk to each other on a regular basis which I find odd as I have just come out of a very long relationship and have no interest in speaking with my ex as I feel it's best to move on and it would only cause problems for my new realtionship.
Early in my new relationship, many ex partners kept ringing texting her which is fine as it's her past etc but I feel really insecure that she still talks to her ex and has many men ringing/texting her.
So I checked her phone, bad thing to do but I had a few reasons to think i can't trust this woman and i wanted to make sure I wasn't getting cheated on, i found strange messages from her husband "really miss you, big kiss"
When we talk about our past history i'm open and honest about how many people I have been with etc but she never really talks about hers.
Totally confused and feel so insecure!
2006-09-25 00:00:46 · 6 answers · asked by Antuk37 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No kids involved. She is not from this country and she says that he has been her friend and helps her out so much since they split. I understand that but can't understand why he texts her that message when he is on holiday, he also rang her while he was on holiday.
She spends all her time with me, she has since got a new mobile and changed her number as she said her husband is crazy sending messages like that. I just feel know that they will probably be talking to each other behind my back.
2006-09-25 00:24:17 · update #1
I have discussed this and although i like to believe her i feel i'm not getting all of the truth.
She says her sexual relationship with her husband was non existent and their relationship was built on friendship.
When she came off holiday she went to his house to get him to sign the divorce papers, all I could think of was that as soon as he came back of holiday she couldn't wait to see him, she was at his house for 40 minutes (???)
2006-09-25 00:29:12 · update #2
you are well justified in your insecurity .better leave her and move on with your life as relationships cannot be built on lack of trust
2006-09-25 00:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to inform you but I think she's playing you. I'm friends with my ex-husband, but he sure as hell ain't leaving me messages like that. I understand why some people say leave the past in the past, but if she won't open up at all, then she's hiding something.
If you're already feeling insecure and can't feel you can trust her, then why are you staying? I'm not gonna be like others on here and say, "She's no good. Dump her!". Only you two can decide what you're going to do, but unless she makes it a point to stop speaking with her ex (unless there's kids involved) and other guys, I'm not sure how you'll be able to feel insecure and trusting in this relationship again. Think about it.
2006-09-25 00:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you feel abt all this. Ask her abt her relationship with her husband. They are only seperated not divorced, thus they are still legally wife & husband.
The strange msg from her husband sound fishy to me. Sort it out by discussing with her. If you feel she's not honest enough, then move on.
2006-09-25 00:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like quite a few issues, verbal replace is the biggest. Ask him to a independent venue so which you will sit down and talk like 2 functional adults, listening to each and each others factors of view, without disruption, then attempting to return to an contract, or a minimum of compromise. if he has unpaid costs to settle, then it could come to the element the place solicitors/attorneys would desire to be in touch, which suits to incur expenditures, yet would, regrettably, be the only answer. solid success, Mike t.
2016-12-18 16:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW..... I can understand that maybe she and the hubby need to talk because of children, dog or $ but not just because of friendship. I personally have stayed friends with all of my xb/f and there is a reason for each and every friend!HMMMM.....
2006-09-25 00:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why involve yourself with people who can't cut contact with their exes? They're ex for a reason. She should stop with it if it's bothering you, she can find friends she hasn't -done-.
2006-09-25 01:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋