Brother was shocked. He told her that he doesnt want to share her with any other man. She told him it is not another man she wanted to share but another woman. He said no but she said think about it. He called me and asked if this is a trap she is setting him up for. I told him say no and why.
He doesnt know what to do. Any thoughts?
2006-09-24 23:52:24 · 19 answers · asked by Mit 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Brother married for 21 years and says she has hinted at this before. His wife is into a lot of sexual things with him already and wants to expand with another woman. Last kicker was she said she wanted another woman to see how great he is. I told him not to do it not matter what. I have feeling my brother would do it because he thinks this would show her he really loves her. I told him he is nuts.
2006-09-25 00:31:41 · update #1
I think your brothers wife is bi-curious.
2006-09-25 00:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A 3 some might lead to cheating after the 3 some is done and over with then you got divorce issues and every thing else to go with it if the other person has an affair so my advice Don't do it. Been there done that now divorced
2006-09-25 06:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he should give it some very serious thought. I say this as if she really wants a threesome she will get a threesome. And if he wants no part of it then he may very well be no part of the threesome. Myself in bed with TWO women well I think I'd be leaning towards the two women. BUT it is a very serious dilemma he is in. He should start by sitting down and talking with her extensively. Like how long has she been thinking of this and why hasn't she talked to him about this in the past. Hey who knows, he might like it more than he thinks.
2006-09-25 06:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like more of a Fantasy for his wife, and she needs a little more excitement from her husband, but if he is already thinking that she is trying to Trap him into something, doesn't seem to be much Trust in the first place.
2006-09-25 07:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want or feel comfortable enough to do it, then that is enough for it not to happen. She can't force him too. If he doesn't want to share her with a man, then he shouldn't want to share her with a woman (regardless of the fantasy). Even if it isn't a trap and he does say yes because it's a female, that will make him look very bad and she can throw it in his face in the future (over and over and over....again). He should play it safe and say he doesn't want any kind of threesome.
2006-09-25 06:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bailey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I thought all men wanted to be with two women at one time, oh well!! It is probaly a bad idea anyway, she might want it now and then become jealous once they get into it and never be able to look past it. I think your brother has the right idea in saying no!!
2006-09-25 06:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
threesomes are not a good idea if any of the three people involved have any emotional attachment what so ever. for women especially! they ALL need to be extremely emotionally mature and honest with themselves and each other for it to not mess with the hearts and minds involved. Really it sounds better than it is! I would ask him to ask her to explain why before making any decisions - for her sake and his.
2006-09-25 06:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by bodhisattva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what your brother should really be concerned about is why it is that she has asked for this.....is she unhappy with their sex life? or is their just something missing from their relationship?
What is making these thoughts even seep in to his wife's thinking is what your brother should be concerned about......this is about so much more than just a menage a' trois.......
2006-09-25 07:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by jrsgurl62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any reservations with regards threesomes should be heeded,,once it is done there is no going back,,there is the divorce courts you can then go on to though so its not all bad if she does want to sleep with other people and it does often lead there.
2006-09-25 07:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how that can improve a marriage. I think it is a kinky thing and I'm too jealous to share.
2006-09-25 07:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are too clever an trap tkeir husbands.plz dony pay attention these.
2006-09-25 06:55:40 · answer #11 · answered by Rena 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋