My husband is in the military and is overseas. He's been gone since the beginning part of the year and has called numerous times to say he thought we should see other people. We were getting divorced. Now another man says he's in love with me and I was thinking about taking a chance but suddenly my hubby 'loves me' and wants me back. The hubby has cheated on me before and I'm not sure I should stay with him cause I don't want to be hurt again... any advice?
2006-09-24 23:42:23 · 10 answers · asked by Isis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is in the military and is overseas. He's been gone since the beginning part of the year and has called numerous times to say he thought we should see other people. We were getting divorced. Now another man says he's in love with me and I was thinking about taking a chance but suddenly my hubby 'loves me' and wants me back. The hubby has cheated on me before and I'm not sure I should stay with him cause I don't want to be hurt again... any advice?
Ok to add a bit more... I love my hubby, and I don't know if I love my friend in that way cause I haven't allowed myself to explore the possibility. I mean for goodness sakes I'm married and woudn't do anything till I was officially divorced which I think could take a year or longer...
2006-09-25 00:00:43 · update #1
Sticking one guy and ruining your hope and happiness is insane,,,, look at your happiness and happenings,,,, just attach to the other guy who likes you,,,, make sure he is stable,,,,, else,,,,hold on till God gifts you the best guy ,,,,,, Have fun,,,, Never welcome setimental irritants ! Be productive in life, troubles destroy you and your developments.
2006-09-25 00:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by test 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why anyone would want to stay with someone who has hurt them and cheated on them, but do what you want.
Please remember that "once a cheater-always a cheater" hold true in the majority of people. It is always hardest to cheat the first time. After that the cheating gets easier and easier.
Strange, I don't see where you mention whether you are still in love with your husband, or if you are in love with the "other guy." Do you have feelings either way? Do you think that you must have a man in your life to make you complete?
I suggest you stay away from any type of relationship for a long time until you decided whether you are actucally in love or just think you need a man to make you feel worthwhile. A man deserves to be loved for who he is - not the security he can provide.
There are worse things than being a divorced & newly single woman. A bad marriage is one of them.
2006-09-24 23:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend going through the exact same thing maybe a little different but very close. I have thought of sending an anonymous letter to the ex hubby of the cheating woman asking him to dinner late in the evening and to come wearing something sexy and to quietly enter her place and run into the bedroom. BUT I haven't sone that yet but I want to. my girlfriend and I are tormented by the fact that our female friends marriage is on the rocks, they have kids and 12 years behnd them. Some times you want to stand up for what is right but don't know how. Maybe something less elaborate. Pay a neighbor to get a snapshot of them together or his car at her house. This girl who is cheating with your spouse may make your hubby feel close to you in some way because you were friends and he may take comfort in that yours and her kids did play together. Maybe the whole time she was your friend she was scoping on him. Maybe he was scoping on your other friends too and found that she was the only one who would bite. Cruising you sound way too good for him there is some guy out in this world who would treat you better than that. Maybe he is used to bimbos and you didn't fit the bill anymore, because there was no more chase. You will be so much better off. Get yourself together and start thinking of yourself. My girlfriend went through a tough time and we found each other by not even looking, maybe that will happen to you too. take care.
2016-03-27 08:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that perhaps the reason your husband wants you back is due to the fact that there is now another man in your life?
You have to sit back and think of all the hurt that this man has caused you and decide if it is worth it to give him another chance.
Has he changed? Has he bettered himself and learned from his mistakes? Is he truly remorseful? Or does he simply see you moving on and has decided that he wants you, because he believes he can convince you to stay and doesn't want anyone else to have you?
Perhaps you should consider giving this new man a chance. You have the right to be happy and feel loved. You have the right to be involved in a loving relationship with a man who is faithful to you.
You answered yourself when you said that you are not sure you should stay with him because you don't want to be hurt again. Right there, you are telling us, as well as yourself, that you doubt your husband's sincerity.
I hope, for yourself, you are able to learn to love again, not only love someone else, but yourself as well and know that you deserve happiness!
2006-09-24 23:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by eedoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are sweety, he is seeing someone else, and Guilt is taking over, he probably can't imagine you being happy with someone else...take the chance with the loving friend, you don't have to be Hurt again. Good Luck with your new Love.
2006-09-24 23:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why stick around to be hurt all over again. i say you should close the book with you hubby and start with someone who can be faithful to you. once a cheater, always a cheater
2006-09-24 23:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he called u to say "i think we need to c other people" u know what that means and since he is still away u also know he is "Doin him" so what makes u think he is really sincere y stay in a siuation that is bad? to wait for it to get worse? think hard b4 u decide to b his play thing! Good luck
2006-09-24 23:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you can make a sound decision dont rush into anything.
You sound like a loving person who deserves what is best for you.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-25 00:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look deep in your heart only you can answer that question.love can over power anything.anyone can change.
2006-09-25 00:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont trust him. a cheater is always a cheater.
2006-09-25 00:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋