My bf john and i broke up on the 17th and i spent all of last week trying to get him back!!! On friday he wrote me a note saying that he wanted me to move on and find someone who loved me more than him!!!! How can he say that he'll be happy for me and some other guy!?!?! If he really loved me whouldn't he come back to me? I don't want to move on, i also don't want to have to see him with my friend christiana!!! Plz help!!
Kelse
2006-09-24 23:14:14 · 13 answers · asked by Kelse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm really sorry to hear this, I am going through a break up as well. But your wound is too new to realize that he indeed does not want to be with you. The absolute hardest thing to do is to refrain from any contact with your ex, otherwise knowing about his life and informing yourself of who he is hanging out with is going ot drive you crazy. Plus if he is trying ot get with a friend of yours and she is flirting back, that is no friend of yours and your ex never had serious feelings about you to be able to move on so quick. I know it hurt ot hear this,but its true. Don't talk to either of them. He himself is telling you. Move on. Take comfort in your friends and take this time to work on making yourself a better person than he could ever be. And that type of self-esteem can only attract good people in your life. Time heals, as cliche as that sounds, but its true., Slowly, but it heals.
2006-09-24 23:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by coochie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Kelse,
i've been through it all and i must say you are going to have a bad period full of pain and tears....:(
see, break-ups are never good. I spent almost 2 years of my life mourning the lost of my BF. During all that time while I was sitting alone and crying, he had another girl, he went out and had loads of fun.
See, noone deserves your tears. And the one who deserves would never make you cry.
Well sometimes a couple breaks up but afterwards thay see that its not the best thing for them and they get together again. But that does not happen very often, trust me. And you'd better not rely on this.
Try to move on but not because he asked u but because of you:) Trust me the period of suffering will be over some day and you will find a stronger person inside of u.
2006-09-24 23:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Teodora Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem you answered yor own question wouldn't it? Obviously he doesn't really love you,and if he doesn't trust me when I say it's really not worth the effort to make it otherwise, if he doesn't love you and you somehow get him to come back he will probably just hurt you even worse in the end. You don't want to move on but you're going to have to it sounds like. I know that feeling and it could be worse believe me,I got divorced five years ago and still am not over my ex,and if you let yourself get in that position it will sabotage every relationship you get in,I know and believe me it's not worth it. So if you can find a way to move on take it.
2006-09-24 23:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say it sister, but you have to move on...in fact, if u do....it will give you the best shot of getting him back....weird how that works, but he will see you are no longer fixated on him and this will drive him mad!!! or, he may be 100% over you and wont care, but you will be over him as well by this time and will have moved on to bigger and better things! so dont contact him or talk to him unless he calls you ....and if he is dating your friend chritiana, then he is a slimeball and your friend christiana is no friend at all!!! finally, it seems like you are a bit young, so realize that you are going to change in your "pickiness" for guys as you age so you will look back at this and laugh.....good luck and keep your head up! NO CONTACT!
2006-09-24 23:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by derek s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what stresses woman out more? MEN. I am bloody sure they all come from another planet. I have been hurt like you , so I know how you are feeling. I know it hurts. Like I said been there done that. Just remember , you are not alone, I bet every woman that has been involved with the male species at some time has had this problem...I do not know how we do it when we are hurt but we need be stronger than them and do not let them know we are so hurt.
Honey, with time you will feel better.
Kim
2006-09-24 23:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if he really loved you...he'd come back to you....but from the sounds of it....the harsh truth is that he does not really love you, and is not interested in coming back to you. It sounds like it's time for you to start trying to get over him & if you can't bear to see him right now (especially with your friend) then try to avoid him for awhile. It may hurt now, but you will get stronger and realize that he was a real jerk to you. When you have your confidence, and self-respect back you will realize that you do not need someone who would treat you that way!
2006-09-24 23:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by MonsterMash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u only can help urself ! know what ! never give up on your self esteem.give him space.dont call him,dont see him.enjoy your life and keep yourself busy without being bothered about loosing him.i give u a guarantee that with in a couple of weeks he'll come back to u and then u let him work hard to win u over.dont just stay waiting with ur arms open for him.if he loves u he will come back to u.if he doesnt come back then he is happier without u so let him be that way.
2006-09-24 23:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by S S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whats the real problem, is it that u love him that u acnt forget him, or is it plainly u dun wish to see him together with ur fren.
love is something more refined then what u are going thru now. apparently ur ex bf is done with u and he wanna move on, but politely mentioning by telling u to move on. and if ur fren is real stuff, she should better not to mix with ur ex bf. but if she disregards u and starts to date him, then u know both of them are not good enough for u to be with.
then i would recommend to move on, cos this is a learning point for u that none of the above mentioned relationship lasts any longer that easily.
regards
2006-09-24 23:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts like everything...but this guy is cruel and if he said that to me, i would get out...he does not obviously care about you...sometimes people get into spats but they realize they do not mean it...but if it has been a week then it does not look like he is going to change his mind...and if you are worried about him being with your friend then you could not trust him in the first place....cause a man doing that is a low blow...i have had that did to me and it really hurts when a friends goes with your boyfriend...and you find out that she was not really a friend like you thought she was....but you can get through it..... this will pass just learn from it...i would not want to stay after he said that to me....it hurts a lot but move on...think more of yourself...
2006-09-24 23:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 22:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋