I went out on a date on friday, and to my shock and horror bumped into an ex that I went out with for 2 years. Its now been a couple of years since we split so rather than pretend I didn't see her or her friends I said hello to them. The friends were great very welcoming but my ex just cut me off at the knees when I said hello, she ended up saying 'look I'm down here with my boyfriend ok' as if I was trying to crack on to her when she could see I was with someone. So I just kept away from the ex as much as possible but she ended up on the table next to me when there were a few to choose from having a row with her fella. I explained the situation to my date and she said that the ex must still love me, is this right why do ex's act in such a horrible way if they still have feelings for you. Or do you think she was just being a b*tch?
2006-09-24 21:43:20 · 23 answers · asked by crownose 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to answer some q's, she dumped me, and yes I do still have feelings for someone that I spent that much time with but got on with my life when she gave me the heave ho.
2006-09-24 21:55:17 · update #1
She sounds a bit insecure to me. It sounds like maybe she made a mistake by giving you the heave ho!! I know that if it was me I would have said it out of shock to seeing you & especially if you were with someone else.
Women can be strange people!! She was probably totally shocked to see that you have moved on. Even though it's been a while since you split up she would still be taken back by the fact you have moved on and that you are not sitting in a bar still wishing you were togehter! I know it sounds rotten but women do have a complex about these things. Especially if she dumped you...(sorry) Then in a wierd way when she sees you with someone else it's like 2 years with her didn't mean all that much after all. I know it's not the case but I'm just giving you one explanation!!
Another one is that she may have thought that you approached her only to show her that you had moved on. It's like a jealous thing! I can't explain it properly. I think yoiu were caught in a catch 22! If you said "hello" without a date she would have thought you were there to win her back or to cause trouble with her new boyfreind. You obviously know the result when you said "hello" with your own date. If you didn't say "hello" then she would be pissed that you now thought she wasn't good enough for you!!
The womans mind is a battle field! I know that we are never really straight forward but that's why men love us really - Never a dull moment!!!
The next time you bumb into her should be different in that she will realise you only said hi to be polite. If she isn't calmer with you then just leave it..
2006-09-24 22:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be that her current partner is jealous. Some people hate the fact that their current partner had a life, and other girlfriends/boyfriends before them, and as a result can be quite mean to their partners.
Bumping into an ex with a jealous partner can be absolute hell, and it can often lead to rows later. It may also be that the current boyfriend of your ex doesn't get on with her mates. They gave you a good welcome which could increase his jealousy.
All these factors will result in your ex being cool with you, to try and minimise the jealous feelings of her current boyfriend.
Either that, or she really is a b*tch, but i doubt she's still in love with you.
2006-09-25 05:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bit of both really. I think she felt comfortable going to you for support when she needed it, as she knows you. But when things are on her side, she's happy to knock you aside. She's was just using you for a bit of emotional support when she needed it and this attitude from women (which seems to appear time and time again) really annoys me. Just appologise to your girlfriend and eventually the situation will fade away into a very distant memory. As for your ex, she has issues of her own that she needs to sort. Don't let it be your problem.
2006-09-25 04:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you will obviously have feelings for her as you spent so much time together and you have memories that only the 2 of you have! so the same can be said visa vera! if she is not getting on well with her present bf, she might be jelous that your happy and have moved on. and she might now see that she made a mistake by dumping you!!!!!
2006-09-25 05:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by peterpeterpeter1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is deliberately creating drama as a way of still being connected to you, even if she is connected to you in a hurtful, embarrassing or negative way. She hasn't the confidence or trust in either you or herself just to be friendly. She is craving a connection with you.
2006-09-25 04:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she was just being an overly jealous.....nevermind. I won't finish that. That is a clue that she still isn't over you. My ex is the exact same way.
2006-09-25 04:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Zach S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think your date might be right. if your ex had got over you then she would have been civil . . . her acting strangely around you probably means that she felt a bit caught unawares and didn't really know how to act around you - and so was trying to be 'cool' and pretend that she didn't care.
hope it didn't ruin your date!
PS why do you care?! do you still have feelings about her?!
2006-09-25 04:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Empress 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a bit screwed up. Dont waste any time pondering this but concentrate on your current gf.
2006-09-25 04:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she still has feelings for you and reacted like that because she was jealous, at lleast you explained to the girl you were out with and if anything else happens at least she will know its not about you trying it on or anything
2006-09-25 04:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by missnikid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think dat she s 1 of 3:
-still in love with u.
-trying to make u jealous.
-she felt dat ur gf took u away from her eventhough u split long time ago. (we like to think that man r our stuff and no will ever touch them but us)
2006-09-25 04:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by mimo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋