So Ive been dating this girl for a few weeks now and things were kinda slowed because she said she didn't need a boyfriend right now, that she has a lot going on and stuff.And well she really did, so I said Id be there for her.And that whatever happens, happens.Well, on saturday she was like I have to tell you something; I have a boyfriend. And I was like huh? She said she wants to be with me, that she sees herself with me. ANd the guy she has been dating hasn't done anything wrong, she just isn't that into him. She wants to take a break, not from dating persay but from being in a relationship for a lil bit, but then would like to pursue things with me. Putting the trust issues aside, should I
A. Give her an ultimatum of him or me, and allow her, her "me" time?
B. Tell her friends isn't going to be cool for forever, and make her give me an estimate of how slow she wants to take things.
C. See how things pan out
I really like her and don't want to scare her off by pressuing her.
2006-09-24 21:36:28 · 11 answers · asked by Don't stop! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Or D. just not deal with her?
When girls do things like that, it's because their unsure. She wants both you and the other guy. No sugar-coating it, that's just how it is. You wouldn't want someone who would break up with a guy for you anyways.. because that obviously means that they'd break up with you for another guy.
2006-09-24 21:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by b. radd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm, well first off she lied to you in sorts. She should of been honest about having a boyfriend. Is this really the type of person you want to be with? Ask yourself, why? Is it just cause you think she is hot? She has played him, more than likely she will do the same to you. Here is an after thought too. If she really likes you, you won't be able to scare her off. I have never really ever heard of someone taking a break from being in a relationship. How do you do that? You maybe don't have friends or whatnot? No I don't understand that part.
Anyways...the options.
I would go with C. Here's why the first 2 won't work...with A would you want someone to tell you well here is the ultimatum. Meaning this is the only chance you get. That is what it really is. With B, she can't honestly tell you well it will take 6 weeks, months, years, etc. Things don't work like that. You can do C and with talking to her find out if she is into you as you are her. If so, then proceed. If not, cut your losses and move on. I always say it is better to start as friends. You have a better footing for any relationship.
2006-09-25 04:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she lied to you about having a boyfriend. Secondly, she is willing to dump her boyfriend who she admits hasn't done anything wrong. Thirdly, she wants to be in control of the relationship with you. That is clear when she says she does not want a relationship but would like to pursue things with you. So I say, try option D. Forget her and find a girl you can trust!
2006-09-25 04:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by godeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really into her then don't rush things. Some things happen for a reason. Maybe she just needs time to clear her head.
2006-09-25 04:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Zach S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for your life! She's a manipulative thing, going to play with you both for her amusement.
2006-09-25 04:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women have snakes in their heads anyway and it sounds like she does too. Leave her alone.
2006-09-25 06:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by Brad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See how things move.
2006-09-25 04:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't seem to know what she wants, and i think she's already
lied to you. move on before the disapointment hits.
2006-09-25 04:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her tyme
2006-09-25 04:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of ONE thing bro... she did it to him, do your really think she won't do it to you as well?
2006-09-25 04:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋