2006-09-24 21:21:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he loves you he wouldn't ever hurt you, he'd always want to see you smiling.
2006-09-24 21:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found this love poem thing. It helped me a lot maybe it will help you too.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then hell no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are! Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary. Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-09-24 21:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by b. radd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man that loves you will do his best never to hurt you. So if your with a man that hurts you than he isn't a man. If I were you I kick him to the curb and find a real man that would do what ever your little heart desires! don't you agree?
2006-09-24 21:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be loved by someone who hurts you? The healthy response to pain is to try to avoid it. Why not find someone who treats you well and makes you happy? This triples in importance if children are part of the equation. If the guy hurts you what chance do your kids have?
2006-09-24 21:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man hurts you a lot he doesn't love you. He's just trying to control you.
2006-09-24 21:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Zach S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I always say....
Love doesn't mean "Putting up with a bunch of crap"
What I mean is - If you were positive he really loves you, would it be okay for him to intentionally hurt you?
Absolutely not.
Do we (as in all of us) sometimes hurt the ones we love without meaning to?
Absolutely.
Doesn't make it right
2006-09-24 21:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by scummibear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man loves you, do things for you.. will try its best not to hurt you.. but you love the man too much will causes you to get hurt..
2006-09-24 21:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Daydream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurts you a lot, it doesn't really matter if he loves you on some mystical level. He isn't acting as if he loves you and you need to listen the action not words.
2006-09-24 21:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship when one hurts the other often, it means that he has bad experiences from previous relationships. His behaviour is based on what happened in his pass. It could be with his family, friends or ex. He has not resolved his past issue and brought it into yours and you are blamed for his unhappy life.
He needs to be by himself and solve his own problem in order to appreciate you and treasure the relationship you have with him.
2006-09-24 21:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man really loved you, he wouldn't hurt you.
2006-09-24 21:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he hurts you and does it on purpose...he doesn't love. He is just using you. I would suggest getting out now and don't look back the abuse, no matter if physical or mental, will only continue to get worse.
2006-09-24 21:24:56 · answer #11 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋