A few weeks ago I had a one night stand with someone I have known for ages . We really seemed to click & were chatting for ages & then ended up in bed with each other. We exchanged texts for a few weeks but I havent seen him since . Then Friday after a few to many drinks , I texted him & well asked him if he wanted a repeat performance . He didnt reply :( . When I had sobered up I felt embarrassed about my text & called him & left a message on his voice mail saying I was sorry & embarrassed about what I had done . I've still had no response from him . I know I will be seeing him on Friday as we are both going to the same party , but I am really dreading seeing him & I am not sure how to handle this situation . I really do like him a lot
2006-09-24 21:03:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just play close attention to how he acts at the party..especially with you and/or other women. If you see that he is obviously only a one night stand kinda guy then you should start looking for someone else.
2006-09-24 21:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by .LoveStoned. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rather obvious that this is a one-night-stand type of guy. You really shouldn't have left that message on his voice mail - kind of exposed yourself there. In any case you shouldn't really feel bad about meeting Friday, HE ought to be embarrased, not you!
I'd act normally and small talk him if he crosses your path otherwise try to ignore him and chat someone else up. If he asks about your texts and your voice-mail just laugh it off and say you were drunk and you're not too sure what you'd said. Don't make it sound like you were pissed off for not getting answered.
If he wants to take it up from there he should as a minumum come up with some apologies...otherwise forget him - he won't be worth it
2006-09-24 21:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Norman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is apparent he is avoiding you, and you can only speculate to the reason why. A lot of women like to con themselves into believing that he's just embarrassed too; however, that's usually not the case. He got what he wanted in that very moment, and now he probably just wants things to calm down and go back to the "no frills" way things were before. I say, give him his space. While it is definitely not respectable that he won't communicate with you about the whole ordeal, he probably regrets it more than he will ever admit. Do you really want to be with someone who ignores you in a time of need? No. You deserve better. Move on. He's not worth your time. I say, go to party looking damn fabulous and find someone better who will truly appreciate you.
2006-09-24 21:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Piddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he ignores you, his attraction to you has stopped. When you meet him at the party, be personable but not pushy. Repeat privately to him what you said in the voice mail that you are embarrassed by the "high expectation" text message you sent. Watch his reaction. If he is touched by your sincerity, then you may have reignited his interest in you. However, if he is noncommittal, or worse, contemptuous, find another man. He is no longer worth two more seconds of the rest of your life.
2006-09-24 21:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by w72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to you, but he probably just used you. As you guys may have been friends before, just because you sleep with a guy doesn't mean he's going to take it to the next level. He'll just think less of you and think that you're easy. Remember [andI'mnotcallingyouaslut] guys don't like girls that have sex with them; guys will have sex with them though. Even though you're smitten for him, it may just be best to get over him for now simply because it seems like he lost interest as soon as you guys did that. Almost as if he got what he wanted from you and left you.
2006-09-24 21:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by b. radd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey these things happen.u r not the sore one out so stop feeling guilty.u did the right thing in leaving him a message saying sorry.its done.so leave it there.dont carry ur embarrassment forward.go for the party and be urself.if u see him wish him.but if he tries to avoid u let him go.dont act desperate to please him.u seem a nice girl, u will get a person who deserves u.all the best.
2006-09-24 21:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like a guy who ignores your messages. I'm glad you weren't naive enough to call him a friend. He hit it. He may just want to quit it. You sounded desperate when you asked for a repeat. God help you. Just play it cool whenever you see him again.
2006-09-24 21:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just act like nothing ever happened and see how he reacts.... guys are kinda shallow about things and probably didn't give it a second thought about what would happen if you were there.... he could just sit in the corner and say... "see that hot chic over there... yeah... I banged her...." and crazy crap like that... I dont' think you have anything to worry about.... if he does say anything just explain to him how you feel... then you'll have to work on that relationship
2006-09-24 21:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this because it's rude, but I'm think that you just got used. You gave him exactly what he was looking for, and now he wants nothing to do with you. Sorry.
2006-09-24 21:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Zach S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i said i 'll see you at he party by the way you were amazing yes i want a repeat performance but my phone is down and the little polka dotted people stole my comp ,,,again , oh and bye the way you left your panties over here, care to pick them up say over breakfast
2006-09-24 21:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by freeby1011 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋