Hi, A few months ago I had a terrible fight with a male friend and he emailed me saying never to contact him again which I didn't. A couple of weeks ago I saw him at a concert and as I passed by he smiled nicely at me(sincerely) and said "HI,how are you?" I was uneasy considereing what had happened and said "hi" very quickly and kept walking.
The following week I felt bad and thought I'd call him (thinking him talking to me was a sign he wanted to be frinds again) When I called he yelled at me and said "I told you never to contact me again" As you can imagine I was shocked and devastated and cried for hours after that. Why would he do that? If you don't want anything to do with someone, you don't look at them or try to speak to them at all especially given the recent happenings. Why onearth has he done this? Also, when I have seen his best friend around he has been overly nice asking how I am etc,giving me hugs and kisses. I just can't understand this behaviour? Can anyone help?
2006-09-24 20:51:06 · 10 answers · asked by charmed one 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I emailed him and was completely truthful about what i was feeling. I have felt for a long time he was in love with me but wouldn't admit this,so I told him this(abit bold) but honestly how i feel.I explained everything else as well. I haven't had a nasty retaliation at all, he hasn't disputed that he's in love with me, I thought i'd get a reaction from that,if someone told me I was in love with them and i wasn't,i'd certainly argue back......very strange!
2006-09-30 00:35:11 · update #1
Stop wasting your time trying to figure out what's going on his head. Ask yourself: do you really need a drama queen like him in your life?
2006-09-24 20:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would also agree with above about not needing this hassle in your life but I also understand that this is something too important in your life to ignore.
I would therefore recommend that you send an email and tell him why you'd called him (in the sense that you only called cos he hinted that's it's ok). In a mail you can explain your feeling properly without being interrupted and yelled at.
I know its hard but please try to be firm with him and to stop being sorry. It is now time for him to stop sulking for whatever happened between you two. You must give him a good talking to and tell him whatever you feel right now. Sometimes some people need to be shocked with the cold hard truth to realize that they're mistaken. so go for it and let him have all your bent-up feelings in one mail. - BUT you must stop there and leave things as is unless he comes back with an apology or with a sincere approach. I wouldn't put my hopes up though, he does sound like quite set in his views.
Good Luck
2006-09-24 21:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Norman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had tears in my eyes reading this letter. I would be sure that your male friend is in love with you, that is why he is acting this way because he is hurting badly.
Somehow you need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how so sorry you are. Tell him that everyone has fights, but you are so upset about loosing him.
Maybe you should get someone to arrange for him and you to meet somewhere because if you try and arrange it , he might not see you.
If he is still acting the same when you talk to him, well then you need to give him space . Men are weird creatures they have minds of their own.
Good luck Sweetie
2006-09-24 22:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a @sshole from the way he is handling the situation. But your not telling us the whole story. What did you do to get the situation to where it is? You can't say nothing. You also were a active particpant. It takes two to tangle.
Maybe the best friend is just being nice. It sounds to me your reading into it too much.
Tell us the WHOLE story.
2006-09-24 20:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him alone. I know you want to make up and save the friendship but apparently he does not. You sound like a sensitive and kind person. Don't squander these qualities on him. Move on.
2006-09-24 20:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with him that you cannot deny, even if he does not want to talk with you, he does not want to cut the relationship completely with you. I think you understand this. Do accordingly. I think You know.
2006-09-24 21:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a real jerk. Count your blessings that he is out of your life.
2006-09-24 20:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by godeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is another girl in the pic and he doens't want any problems.
2006-09-24 20:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it.life is short dont run around something hurtable........leave content life with your friends dear
2006-09-24 20:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by stephy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his best friend likes you. ignore the first guy he sounds like a jerk.
2006-09-24 20:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋