She lived in Wales, I lived in the UK. Distance was never a factor. I went down there on the weekend and then when I got home last night she said that she is not ready for a relationship because it's her last year of college and she works alot, she said she has alot of pressure on her at the moment and doesn't want any more. She said it's not fair on me. We were together for 2 months. She said we will still see each other now and again and that we will still talk to each other every day and that in the end "things will work out" (that is what she said). I told her I love her and always will and that I am not going to look for other girls because of the way I feel about her. Do you think it will work? I am scared that it will fade away... I feel lost and it's affecting me badly. Please help. Thanks.
2006-09-24 20:49:52 · 23 answers · asked by chapers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I wouldn't hold out on her if I were you. Time to forget this one, because there is no reasonable chance that she will change her mind. She's making excuses to justify leaving you, I think. If she REALLY wanted to be with you, she'd find a way to make it work. Especially since she knows you are willing to make it work. You were only together for two months, so that was never a strong relationship to begin with. It sounds like you came on too strong if you're telling her you'll always love her, etc. That may have turned her away. I know it hurts, but you must move on to other girls. Be thankful that you realized how little she likes you after only two months! Good luck with the next one! (Hint: Do not throw yourself at girls any more!)
2006-09-24 20:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As I said before " away from the eye away from the heart " . A strong continuous relation needs the two partners to be near each other almost all the time. This is why there are always problem in long distance relation. Try to know the real reason behind her behavior, in case she wants to drag you to a higher step in your relation (e.g marriage, having a child) discuss it with her quietly. But in case you feel that she wants only to abandon you, leave her IN PEACE (she has the right) , find a pretty new challenging baby , do not look back and move ahead with the crowd.
2006-09-24 21:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has a new guy lined up. She's trying to gently move you out of the way, without tipping her hand, so she can come back to you if the new guy doesn't work out.
Forget about her, move on, meet someone who lives near you, be happy. Don't chase her, bother her, call her. It's the best way, trust me. It only makes the hurt last longer, if you chase after her, grovel and whine to her to take you back.
You can do better.
2006-09-24 21:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by biggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hope u r ok, but u were only going out with her for 2months.....maybe she was right as it wouldnt b fair on u if u werent to see her if she was working alot....she would end up really stressed + then you's would prob break up.....wales is abit from the uk......maybe you should just stay friends....will take a while to get over her if u really like her, but u'll get through it
good luck
x.niks.x
2006-09-24 23:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by lil niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. Some things last and some things don't. But they all hurt. SOunds like to me that the reality of it is that you should let her go. Be a man, stand tall, walk away and something will come along. Life has ways of making you think that what you had is better than what it really was. let it go. You are to young to let it ruin your life. Go get laid that always helps. kidding
2006-09-24 20:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Noodle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, I am in this current situation myself.. but I'm the girl. My ex does exactly what you do like say, "I'm not going to look for any other girls," and "I'll wait for you...," and frankly it's just kind of annoying/scary. It's like, she's saying that because she wants SPACE.. she doesn't want you to like constantly have you waiting for her. She kind of wants to move on with her life for the moment. And sometimes that doesn't mean forever but sometimes it does. You just need to let her have space in order for her to figure out what's right.. for HER. Don't pressure her into staying with you because in the end she'll just feel trapped and leave you anyway. Respect that she needs that space... and give it to her, completley.
2006-09-24 20:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by b. radd 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and start a life somewhere else. She doesn't want a relationship at the moment and needs to sort herself out. Find yourself someone else - move on, as difficult as it may be. If she was interested in settling in a relationship with you, she would have made you know about it.
2006-09-24 20:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your girlfriend has made it clear that she has too much going on right now to have time for a serious relationship. Don't waste your time feeling lost and confused, get on with your own life.
2006-09-24 20:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well......whewww....thats hard pal....give her the space she wants that might lighten the pressure in her mind...be supportive to her job...give yourself some time too.You should'nt have to worry much coz you still have the chance to talk to her...(remember what she says " things wil work out " )
So continue your affection or more so....inhance it..work harder this time....use the space you have to think whats lacking on your side...
Double your effort to work your relationship the next time she'll take you again.....Send her a bouquet of flowers...with sweet thoughts...chocolate...coz she deserved something sweet...don't you think...?
So wish you all the best...
2006-09-24 21:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by james ian h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, what did you do?? There must be a reason!!
To your details-
Well, where do you live now??
She is Wise!
Deciding she shouldn't have you to worry about and get in the way of her studies and future! (Poor me!)
If she gets a boyfriend (and it's not you!)-she's just a lying Bit.ch!
Well-you seem that you are together.
Ask her that to confirm it, and quit worrying!
Absense makes the heart grow fonder!
2006-09-24 21:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋