i need guideness please, i am unable to fight with my feelings, but i want to achieve?

Question

iam 22, working in chennai and i am the first child, my father unable to give education after +2, i worked myself hard in restauant i paid my fees and sent to my family,i finished graduation and now i got nice job which has opportunties, but my salary is 3000. my problems i came from poor family, i have to give good future for my youngsters.my father became old and he uneducated. i have the will to learn new things and succeed in life but in my age i feels i donot have girlfriend, no one comes and speak with me in church, some people see status, i came from struggled life. i am unable to fight with me and my feelings, one mind says if i miss these things i cannot get once again, other says this is the time to achive to reach good stage then i can manage, i fear whether i may fall in love and unable take of my family,themy commitments, and when i was working hard in hotel , i had burning desire, now i left i think. but i want to achieve someting,i do not have anyone to guide me, help

i know the real happiness is live for others rather than our own joy and will. i like to live as a life for my youngsters.

Answer 1

Hi, Robert see their are few people in this world who have to live for others, I can give u one example he is none other than dhirubhai ambaani he was also in same situation b4 he became rich if he would have think for himself then his children's would have not been in the present condition . he thought that if he can work for his future now then his family and his children's will be having good future ahead. Even i am feeling the same like you but we have no choices in our life but to work and earn for your family. so please think for future and think for your younger one's just make sure what you are facing , your coming family should not face it again.

Answer 2

Every one first struggles to earn his bread. If time permits, tries to be called as a good person or great person. In that process also he loses a lot and suffers much but takes all that with pleasure. Finally joins in that ground.This is life. It is like a river going fast. A normal person can not go across. Any how try to do good to as many as possible and there we find real happiness.Gautam Buddha is the good example.He left his rich and beautiful wife and went on thinking how to mitigate the grief of others. He is an achiever.That strong desire to help others is the first quality one must have. If followed by some effort it gives wonderful results.

Answer 3

hey macha, life is hard & when you do all the hardwork now then everything will fall on its way, even me i'm struggling a lot as i was fooled by everyone but recovering strongly & want to work hard for my family & this soceity, your only positive thing is hardork so dont compromise it for anything else.
Life is just not loving a girl but, true love will happen on its own need not search for it, all the best in your life.

Answer 4

Robert,i like the many others answering feel your pain,why..because we all feel that way,everyone of us,its natural, its an honest worry.Status is for the weak.It makes them feel superior,but hides what your sharing with us.They cant express themselves but only make themselves feel better with a shiny new toy and when that wears off they buy another.It's not true happiness.When your in church,remember God is there,if others dont see you,than they're not as religious as they make out to be.
As far as a girlfriend,it will happen,you dont see it but others will,your taking care of your dad,doing what is right and trust me,though you dont see it God and others do,so dont worry,we've all been in the feeling that you are right now.....Mark

Answer 5

Sit quietly and Analyse yourself --- what are you good in ? ---- you have to be good in some special quality (it may not be your job) which makes you specially Happy and thrilled while being in that state of the job. Please tell me and only then can i guide you further for Happiness in your family and individual-life. All the best my friend. What you look for in church, is in your heart, your life. Lets know about that what you excel in as a human being.

Answer 6

First try to get a good job. After that everything will be fine. Why dont you try jobs in hyderabad.

All the best for your future.

Answer 7

hi der m pooja from delhi
d only advice i would like to give u would ne stay happy in wht ever u have god will help u soon
dont worrry m der 4 u always

Answer 8

You are still very young. You must concentrate first in uplifting your family. I am sure, once you reach the right age, someone will be there for you IN GOD's TIME.

Answer 9

hai robert, please dont get upset of the situation you are in but take it as a challenge and work sincerely to reach your goal, you said you have good opportunities in your present job grab them move forward, dont think of girlfriends now but give your full attention towards your work.i know it is easier said than done good luk

Answer 10

I dont know what to advise you Robert but you are doing the honourable thing,family is most important.You will one day be old and your children will support you then.good luck.