2006-09-24 20:19:28 · 10 answers · asked by poppysgirl 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Apart from whats already been stated, i.e. one of you has picked up again, if you think you should, then its probably the right thing to do, however, if you are very early in sobreity, you wont be thinking all that straight, so i would suggest try talking to someone else that you know in the fellowship. There is also nothing to stop you sharing about your situation in a meeting that no-one knows who your sponser is, as is said, dont drink, go to meetings, the answers are there in the rooms somewhere.
Good luck.
2006-09-24 20:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Pope my ride! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A study showed that having a sponsor didn't make a bit of difference on whether a person stays sober or not, but BEING a sponsor helped the sponsor some.
Nowhere in the Big Book does it mention sponsors. I believe people do better if they have a handful of sober FRIENDS that they can talk to. The sponsor relationship is open to abuse and there are some sick people in the rooms. Why turn your decision making over to another drunk whose only qualifications are having been sober longer? Don't entrust your sobriety to anyone who may not have YOUR best interests in mind.
Just stay sober and don't let anyone judge your sobriety. Anyone tells you differently is wrong, they're not following what it says in the book.
2006-09-25 17:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by raysny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest you stay with the sponsor you have for the first year at least. then you should have a good idea of the step and doing inventory. i tell my sponsees or chicks as that I'm not a social worker I'm recovering drunk not a marriage counsel er or bank ill help with steppes read big book with you and that's all i can do. god bless i hope you enjoy your knew life in sobriety
2006-09-25 03:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by twocrows 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when A. they dont return your calls
B.you dont feel comfortable(excluding persistance on the 12 steps)
C.they arent there when you need someone to turn to
D.they ask for favors and are taking advantage of the situation
ps.feel free to look around for another anyway,its your life and you got to be a little selfish at times(this is for you not them...keep comin'back..good luck
2006-09-25 03:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your current ones gets an unlisted number, moves away, refuses to talk to you, goes back to the alcohol. All those reasons or any one of them would be a clue.
2006-09-25 03:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you getting good advice? do they make you mad?email me and maybe we can talk i have a lot of experience with this and dont want to put it on here.mrleanrk@yahoo.com
2006-09-25 03:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. You'll know if he/she is not trust worthy or telling you things you don't believe in.
2006-09-25 04:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by Julian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you feel that the one you have is the wrong one.
2006-09-25 03:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this one isnt helping any
2006-09-25 03:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are off the wagon and he/she isn't kickin' your drunk *** right about now....
2006-09-25 03:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋