my longdistance gf, got emotionally close with another guy and went on a couple of dates but didnt kiss him or anything else, and this happened when for various reason we stopped talking for 2 weeks by email and stuff cos i was going thru a bad time, she told me and she came bacvk to me and told the other guy she was trying again with me and finished it with him would u say that she cheated on me?
2006-09-24 20:00:53 · 28 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't say that she has cheated on you yet. There is nothing wrong with her wanting to get out of the house. Of course you really need to make a decision in your life about where this relationship is going and what you want to do to become closer to her. It is hard to maintain long distance relationships because it is natural to want to be close to someone.
2006-09-24 20:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i found out though experience being in the military for a few yrs just taking note on all the solders that have had relationship problems that long distance relationships rarely work out. it boils down to a point where sooner or later most of the time one or both partners will just plan get too lonely for physical contact . probably best even if there was no physical contact with your g/f and this guy "this you can never really be sure of and it will probably always be in the back of your mind" that you both maybe better off finding someone closer or finding a way of getting closer to each other very soon physically
2006-09-24 21:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by wiz of ia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she told you goes a long way.
However, long distance relationships rarely work out for this very reason. There are other things to keep her interested closer to where she is. More than likely she will be tempted again by the guy who is close and who can take her out over the man who is a long way away and his only attention is phone and email.
2006-09-24 20:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes getting emotionally close with someone can be just as bad as physically close. Depends on the terms of why she did it in the first place. I mean if she couldn't wait 2 weeks til you were ok again, then she wasn't really worried about waiting to see how you were.
2006-09-24 20:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by butrfly1215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very bad sign. It sounds like she is trying to keep her promise, but long distance relationships never work. The temptations are just too great. I think she will stray soon if she hasn't already. There is an old saying that is very true, "Out of site, Out of mind." So, find a another girl. One that lives closer to you. This one is done.
2006-09-24 20:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by godeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given that you weren't talking at the time I think her dates with another guy were ok, the fact that you weren't talking as you were going through a bad time would worry me more- was she unable to support you through this or were you unable to turn to her for support- whichever I would say it doesn't necessarilly bode well for your relationship. Long distance relationhsips really need 100% trust otherwisae you will spend your whole time fretting and worrying over one another. Maybe it#s time to give it a proper break and allow both of you to find people closer to home.
2006-09-24 20:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it cheating, was there any problem between you two for her to say "try again with you"??????????. long distance relationships don't work, I have seen many and none of them lasted, unless you get together and live happilly forever after (if there is such a thing)................ I would finish it, for all the right reasons. You don't even know if she has been honest with you, this are things you see, as you are appart...................... you see nothing.
2006-09-25 01:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by laidia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. That's the prob wiz long distance relationship! you didn't contact her for 2 weeks, she felt let down &probably thought you are having seconds thoughts abt her. She needed you but find you so far away. So many things was going on her mind. But it's you she wants to be with and love.
2006-09-24 20:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she was unsure of her relationship with you even if she was to consider something like that. The distance is obviously having its toll on you guys and its something you need to work out quickly because she is likely to do it again - only this time, it may go further.
2006-09-24 20:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually " away from the eye, away from the heart. This is what makes me think that such relation cannot continue in the long run although it appears she is dear to you. Explain to her this and release her to find another man near her and you in turn try to forget her and find a pretty mate near you and move ahead to build your life>
2006-09-24 20:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋