Before you have even met him/her?
2006-09-24 19:40:27 · 36 answers · asked by Talk To The Hand 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To a certain extent I think it is, yes.
I find people with humour and intelligence very attractive, and if they seem to have those attributes then I feel drawn to them.
But the physical bit is also important - so I'd have to reserve my judgement till I laid eyes on them.
2006-09-24 20:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its possible to fall in love with anyone you have never met.
However, it can be a good way to meet someone that you could possibly fall in love with.
The problem that I've seen with people who get in online relationships is that they put the other person on a pedestal and if they are dissapointed when they meet in real life it really hurts.
2006-09-24 19:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what context of love you take.
If you mean true, unbreakable, totally devoted, 100% in your face, whipe your butt when you become parapalegic for the rest of your life type love. I can say its maybe possible, but highly unlikely.
embarassingly, I thought I did once. It went on for a couple years casually. Then things got heated up and I thought Id go meet with her. It sucked to find out I was in love with a pretense of an honest person in my own mind.
Ya I was in 'love' alright.
But then we just stayed in contact and I found myself being drawn into her situation and I can honestly say I loved her as far as my half of it is concerned. Me worrying, me caring about details in her life that she'd tell me about. But really, I was dealing with a bummer chick that was quicker to give up on herself than I was to her.
So to say she loved me in kind is kinda farcical.
Second lesson learned.
But, Id be really, painstakingly careful in the future with online friends that youve never met. If you have ever been in my shoes you know how bad this sucks.
Watch out especially for ones that demand your 'trust' when theyve done nothing to earn it.
Just dont do it. Spare yourself the grief and humility for someone real. Itll be over faster. Without all the strange topics that could only occur online...if one or the either is even serious.
Oh, I am sure its possible. But, definately not too likely.
If its not 100% honest, or you dont care if its honest or not. NO. not in my eyes can it possibly be.
If either person reacts with adamant rejection of a simple, cute, innocent demand and cannot see it for earning an easement and trust from the other.
NO
Love needs to be demonstrated to be validated.
stripping in front of your webcam will not accomplish trust...though it may be very pleasing to your partner if there is a preexisting trust and the purpose is simply intimate.
Trust cannot be demanded of except by the foolhardy.
If there is a mutually aggreed concept of the 'love'. and if both partners are totally loyal to thier agreed upon concept then no one can be the wiser between them anyways. So of course its possible, just extremely unlikely in my eyes.
2006-09-24 20:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially I thought that was impossible. But you read the success stories all the time and it makes you stop and think. Suddenly you find yourself talking with someone and they are really a great, honest, hardworking person and you think, hey, maybe there's something more to this than meets the eye. You start speaking on the phone regularly and decide to get together, even though you live 2800 miles apart. It happens and it's for real and it just might work out, good luck.........
2006-09-24 19:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by silhouette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the Internet it is possible to be whoever you want. If the people are honest about who they are then maybe but I don't think most people on here are completely honest. If you fall in love with someone on the net you may be disappointed when you finally meet them and realise they are an overweight chain smoking computer addict.
2006-09-24 19:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by SR13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but, I think you are in love with the idea of him or her or the ideal of him or her. I know I did that a couple times and realized it was the "idea" or ideal thought of that person. After meeting them in person and being with them they were somewhat different. With one lady, it was much different, after spending time with her, she was even more of a person that I wanted spend time with, though I was not in love with her before I met her. Seeing a someone in person and seeing how they are is much more satisfying and real to the mind. The mind can be tricked by words if not clearly defined for you. Hope and dreams can be intoxicating.
2006-09-24 19:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. It depends on how much time you spend chatting online. I met my bf online, and we chatted for hours everyday. After a couple of weeks we starting talking on the phone everyday also. Then after a couple of months we met in person. We have now been dating for 6 months and are going strong. It has been the best relationship of my life.
However, you do have to be careful.....before I met him I chatted with a few losers that said they were in love with me and turned out to be scam artists......check out http://groups.yahoo.com/group/romancescams/
2006-09-24 20:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, to a certain extent, I believe. my nephew met his wife on the internet; they seem to be happy and are expecting their first child; his and she are in their early 30's now and have been married a few years; when they met on internet - they lived about 30 to 40 minutes from each other. It was a First Marriage for both of them; they lived together for about 2 or 3 years before they married, but I do not BELIEVE in living together; I am old-fashioned. Best Wishes;\\;;\
also - a 37 year old Guy told me he had fallen in Love with me!; we chatted on a chat-line; He told me he Loved me--before I sent him an old photo of myself. but i'm in my mid 50's and told him that I was too old for him; he said age made no difference; I would not let him come to see me; i also did not give him my real name and name of City in which I live; i also would not give him my telephone number. Be careful on the Internet, please! ALSO -- IF YOU ARE A YOUNG PERSON -- talk to your parents about THIS or to someone older than you are. best wishes! -- I think it is better to Fall in Love with persons who live closer to you. - that's just my feelings.
2006-09-24 19:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Eyed Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. I had a pen pal for 4 years.. helped him through the most difficult times in his life. I will always love him..and I have never met him
2006-09-24 19:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are weak and gullible and hurting for attention, then yes the chances exist. You should limit your anticipations of meeting someone special within your own area or county. The chances of getting hurt on-line are to frequent. I suggest you just let the chips fall where they may, and allow fate to take its course
2006-09-24 19:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋