My sister's pregnant again?

Question

And I know she's probably only telling close family cause she isn't very far along. I know a lot of people don't tell the wider community until after three months or so, when the risk of miscarriage is less. Should I follow the same rule? I don't want to have to go back and tell people it isn't going to happen either, and of course I will respect her opinion on the subject. I don't expect anything to happen to this baby; I was just wondering what the protocol might be in this situation.

I'm not talking about telling the same people she'd be telling. We live in diferent states. If she doesn't want me telling anyone, I'd respect that. But if she doesn't mind me telling people she doesn't know, would that still be okay?

Answer 1

My advice would be to ask her if she minds you telling others. Tell her who you want to tell, and ask her if it is ok with her. Pregnancy is nothing to be ashamed of. It happens many times EVERY day, but she may want some privacy. As you said, show her respect by asking her before you tell others. I don't see why there should be any particular protocol unless she's ashamed of the way she got pregnant. News of a pregnancy or birth is a wonderful thing, even in THIS day and age!

Love, Hope, Peace, & Christ Be With You,

Cal-el & Swissy

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think that quite frankly, it is not your business to tell anyone. And I mean anyone, if for no other reason than it is her special news, and she will want to be the one to tell people. Just be happy for her and go about your business. It really is nothing to concern yourself about, and is not your problem. You can make your choices when you get pregnant. She may deal with grief differently, and if she lost the baby, may be very upset if she even has to talk to anyone about it. Do your pregnancy your way, and respect her right to do the same.

Answer 4

hmm really depends how you feel about it. on one hand if you dont tell anyone and something happens, you wont really have the support you might need during a m/c. I told everyone before i had my m/c and i dont regret it. I DO however regret telling my daughter who was 2 1/2 at the time.. it was hardest trying to explain that to her.. the next pgcy i told everyone but not the kids until later on.

Answer 5

I always told right away

congrats I believe is an order

Sorry, I take back what I wrote before For a second I thought you were talking about you being pregnant too, then you wrote the next comment.
if she asked you not to say anything than you should wait till she says you can tell people.

You need to respect her wishes

Answer 6

I'm sure if you're asking if you shouldn't tell people that your sister is pregnant or if you are and are wondering if you should wait to tell people until you're around three months.

If you're asking about telling people about your sister's pregnancy? Don't. Firstly, because if she wants to wait for people to know, then that is her right. She has her reasons and you should respect them. Secondly, because someone stole away from my husband the chance to tell people in our town about our daughter. He was so excited to tell people that he has knows for years that he was going to be a Daddy and when he went to tell them, they already knew. He was so down about not being able to shout it from the rooftops and also pissed at the person who had stolen that away from him.

If you're asking about your own pregnancy? I say wait.

I didn't think anything would happen to my baby either. I was excited to be pregnant again and couldn't wait to tell the family. We were planning on special ways to involve our daughter in the big announcement. Then one day I started bleeding. The next day I lost the baby.

We hadn't told anyone, "just in case". The day I lost the baby, we had a lot of running to do... my husband had called my sister-in-law to see if she could watch our daughter. He had to tell her why. When I saw her again, she barely said a word to me when we were alone. So much for the so-called "support". My husband was wonderful, he took care of me wonderfully well.

It's been almost two months since my miscarriage. I was 8 weeks along, but the baby had passed away at 5 weeks gestation. I have a hard enough time dealing with it as it is. I would hate to have people come up to me and ask me anything about it. I need to deal with it in my own way. I am glad that most of the people I know, don't know about it.

If we are blessed enough to be able to get pregnant again, we won't be telling anyone until we hit about the 4-5 month mark. I want to feel that baby moving inside me before we tell anyone anything.

To sum this up (I know I'm long-winded and I apologize):

1. If this is your sister's pregnancy, it is her right to wait for people to know and it is her right to tell them unless she gives you express permission. Do not steal her thunder by telling people about the baby. Do not decide who is going to share her grief if, God forbid, the unthinkable happens.

2. If you are referring to your own pregnancy, I would wait. Wait until you reach that magic 12 week mark or until (as we will do) you feel that little one swimming around in there. It sounds morbid, but be very careful about who you would want sharing your grief with you. Tell those whom you know would support you and would let you handle your grief in your own way.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Do what is right for you when you are pregnant and let your sister decide whats right for her.

That's the love of having a sister and still benefiting because your different and can use her suggestions or check out what works better for you..

Answer 8

Being an aunt again is a happy occasion and you will want to tell everyone that you know and even at times people you don't know.
Enjoy spreading the information and if bad news comes later, inform the ones that are close to you and the ones that ask you about it later. Always wish for the best. Best of luck.

Answer 9

It is her pregnancy so leave that decision up to her. It is her place to inform people unless she has asked you otherwise. To put it bluntly, it's not your place. Don't take the risk of making your sister feel as though you betrayed her confidence.

Answer 10

Just keep it to yourself it is her news she might get mad at you for telling her news and she might not want to tell certain ppl so i would just let her tell who she wants to tell.