A guy at work just asked ' How i would feel seeing someone older'. By that he meant himself. He is about 15 years older than me and sorta creepy. He uses every opportunity to come talk to me, and when he does he cant even look in my eyes. They are elsewhere. I dont want to be rude, but what do you say to make this behaviour stop!
2006-09-24 18:32:10 · 20 answers · asked by Nik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey nik... listen..... and follow what i say..... saying something which is in your mind is not rude.... if you keep on saying things politely and talking to these kind of creepy people, you will never be able to get rid of him..... you have to be straight in your talks.... it need not be rude...but it should be STRAIGHT.... and in minimal words.... just say that you already have a boyfriend(even though you dont have one) and you are not AT ALL interested in HIM... this is not called being rude..... this is called being straight..... being rude is like... "get away from me, you pathetic, sticky Jerk".... so you have to fight for it.... let me know if there are other issues as well, cos you haven't explained your problem details.....
2006-09-24 18:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to get it out. Even if you have to look away while you are saying this at least you are getting it out. He is doing the same thing to you so what you need to say is: I really don't want to go out with you if that's what your talking about. I don't feel that way about you. Are you talking about yourself? I am sorry but I see you as a friend only. Just keep playing broken record he will get nowhere.
2006-09-24 18:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's the one being rude. He needs to control his creepyness. I would not consider blowing him off being rude. At this point, you need to consider your SAFETY. You don't want end up in a ditch somewhere. Plus, if you're at work, this probably falls under the guidlines of sexual harrasment. People like that don't get the suttle clues. You NEED to be rude to him, otherwise you are basically inviting him into your world.
2006-09-24 18:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want this persistent, invasive behavior to stop, kindly tell him you are not interested in him. Do not invite this behavior by allowing him to "use every opportunity to come talk" to you.
If you tell him and he STILL remains creepy about it, go to your supervisor or Human Resources Department and file a formal complaint (i.e. corporate-speak for "sexual harassment")
You need to lay your cards on the table with this guy or expose yourself to his persistence.
Good luck.
2006-09-24 18:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by niteowl716 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say, excuse me, thank you for the compliment, but I want you to know that I'm only interested in being your friend and that only. Anything else would be impossible. I know that you are man enough to respect my wishes and will do so. Then walk away and don't look back. He won't bother you anymore......
2006-09-24 19:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by silhouette 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be rude. This guy does not respect you and the only way he will listen to you is if you put your foot down and tell him straight forward.
2006-09-24 18:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The next time he comes over and starts the "dating" conversation...in your perkiest, tell him you have a friend who's more interested in older men...and innocently mention " thank God, we have different taste in men".
That should stop him!
2006-09-24 18:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by 8s_fun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow 15 years is a lot between the two tell him ur uncomfortable about thr whole thing and if he dont get the point tell him to back off!!! and if he doesnt........ well u get the point
2006-09-24 18:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Camera_Queen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just look in his eyes n say firmly its not goin 2 work between both of u.
2006-09-24 18:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
fight fire with fire... use the trusty old finger or the knee jam to the balls. idonno the guy ur describing makes me wanna punch him so ur a girl do the right thang.
2006-09-24 18:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by joey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋