A Question to Muslims. I want an answer.?

Question

This is not a question of hate, nor am I trying to bother anyone, but it seems as though whenever someone asks this question there is no answer. Muhammad had a wife who was around the age of 8-9 years old. This is a fact, and if you ask any Muslim Cleric, or anyone that studied the history of Islam they would concur.

My question is how can that be justified? If you're going to say "because it was accepted back then" please don't. I'm, not asking what was accepted back in the day, because even then it was not justified.

Just answer the question or don't say anything at all. Don't try to point out another religions faults, because that's not the question, don't swear at me, because I'm only asking a question based on facts. If you would like to answer, answer, if you want to deny it, don't answer. I would also appreciate it if nobody else gives sarcastic remarks against Islam, because I'm trying to keep this peaceful even though some of my past remarks were negative.

Answer 1

You know Allen, as a Muslim I have known this but was really scared in looking into "why". It never made sense to my common sense, but tell you what, I will try to find you an appropriate answer and email as soon as possible. Otherwise you can communicate with me on more questions at [e-mail]

Answer 2

I know you don't want me to answer this. It's a good question. I'm not a Muslim, though I believe in Muhammad. And, I know you don't want this answer; but, I must give my idea. I think in those days to marry your children off did not mean they became sexually active. They are just promised, for when they do become mature enough to be sexually active. Muhammad may have married her; I don't think that means he had sex with her. In those days women and children were married in order to have a man to protect them; it didn't mean they had sex with them. This custom is not limited only to the Muslim culture. I believe, in China, it has also been the custom. Marriage and sex didn't, necesarily, have anything to do with each other.

The fact that they married their daughters off without asking their consent, is, equally, to me, in this day, unforgiveable.

All cultures have done dumb things. When the Divine Messengers come, they set us straight.

As a believer in Muhammad, though not a Muslim, I, too, will be interested in these answers.

Good question.

Answer 3

Mohammed engaged with Ayesha when she was 9 and got legally married when she was 12.

Mary, mother of Jesus ,gave birth to Jesus when she was 12...

I do not know where are you from but in Arabic countreis 12 y o girl is already physically matured and can get married and have kids..
So Where is the problem now?

Answer 4

the prophet saw this in a dream.twice.and the dreams of prophets are prophesy.so this marriage while not the social norm had to take place.the prophet was reported to be uneasy over this situation.but there is no backsliding for a messenger of God.and let me share this.had not that marriage taken place we the muslims would be devoid of thousands of sayings and deeds of the prophet.aisha[r.a] reported more authentic hadiths than most of his companions closest.she was gauranteed paradise, a gift not given to just anyone.she was the first and most prolific female scholar in islam.so while the marriage to a young girl looks to us as strange,it produced immeasurable good to the muslims.and as you know this was exclusive for the prophet only.this is why no other case like that can be found since.compare that to the incest,rape porn that the christians and jews from the west, your daughters are not safe in this land.this filth has reached epidemic proportions in this land.if you reject islam over this you are shallow indeed.but in truth it will be Allah you reject.

Answer 5

and I think that you may be sincere,but it appears that you have your mind made up that this was wrong for him,Allah's Peace and Blessing upon him,to have married someone so young.But know that Allah was his provider,whether those provisions were clothes, food, wealth,wives,etc.,etc.,etc.Bottom line is yes, it's true that she was very young when she married,and Allah is her Lord and He is Just and Kind to all those who serve and worship Him.So if you think that Allah was unjust to allow this young girl to be taken as a wife at such a young age, then know that your opinion pro or con, will never undo the honor and prestige in which she is held in for all these years.-Peace!

Answer 6

yes it is true that he Married a 9yr old girl, but the marraige was LEGAL AND LAWFUL with the consent of her parents. in those days, why even today in many parts of Africa, Far East and India, there are many girls who are married by age of 9/10 and they live with their parents and when they reach the right age -- when they get to know everything -- they are sent to their husbands home with a ceremony. this is what happened with Muhammed-pbuh too. although, Hazrath Ayesha-r.a was married at the age of 9, she lived with her parents and there were no relations between the prophet and his wife. she was sent to the prophets house at the age of 14/15 as HIS LAWFULLY WEDED WIFE.

also u should note that Muhammed-pbuh did not marry Hazrath Ayesha for her beauty, he married her for her intelectuality, wisdom, strong faith and inqiusitive nature. she was the only virgin he married. U will be SHOCKED to hear that the rest of the women Muhammed-pbuh married were all DIVORCEES AND WIDOWS -- whose husbvands left them for another women or died at war and epidemics. and he married these women to set an example that -- WIDOWS HAD EQUAL RIGHTS TO THE WIDOWERS. it was Islam that said -- widows should have a life again and should not be alone without anyone to care for her.

Hazrath Khdija-r.a, the first wife of Muhammed-pbuh was impressed with the loyalty and honesty of muhammed-pbuh, and kept the proposal of marraige via muhammed-pbuh's uncle Abu Talib. muhammed-pbuh was 25 when he married to a 40year old widow. it was she who wanted to marry him in first place due to his absolute trust worthiness. the whole of ARAB knew that muhammed-pbuh was the mlost trust worthy man , that is why he was called -AL-AMIN.

and she was infact the first to beleive in muhammed-pbuh and God's revealtions to muhammed-pbuh.. and he did not marry someone else during the lifetime of hazrath khadijah-r.a becoz, he loved her sincerely and immensely. why should he be afraid of her when they loved each other whole-heartedly.

and why would God tell him to marry someone else when his first wife was alive. muhammed-pbuh did not marry another woman when Khajidah-r.a was alive. when he had no one to take care of their children he had to marry again. their children were: Qasim, Abdullah (Tahir or Tayyib), Zainab, Ruqaiyyah, Umm kulthum and Fatimah. if it would not have been for the children he wouldnt have married.

as far as being angry about something is concerned -- if i give a speech insulting and degrading the God u worship or the Prophet u respect or any of ur Loved one and get away with saying "Free speech", will u let me be? will u let me have my way?

first of all -- do some research.-- "you're going to say "because it was accepted back then" please don't. I'm, not asking what was accepted back in the day, because even then it was not justified. -- is a FALSE statement. why dont u see a few generations back -- may be 10generations back and u will NOTICE that girls in west married by 15 while in east they married by 7/8. and i think u have never been to any country nor do u travel much, do u?

Answer 7

he married women to help them, not for having another wife. If a girl's male relatives die, no one can take care of her and her other female relatives, the only way Prohpet can help her is if he married her, so he married girls for reasons like that

Answer 8

Do you understand in English?
Justified is different between Iran has nuke plant rather than USA and Israel has a thousands of nuke war head, but UN insist Iran to close down nuke plants. satisfied.....
From Barnaba to Bible, 2 different views.....
From Pope to Protestan.

Answer 9

I've read that his marriage to Aisha was a political thing, to try to unify Arabian tribes, rather than attraction. This still doesn't justify his sleeping with her when she was 9. That's attraction, not political. And it's sickening.

Answer 10

Nice way of asking. Ignorant people should learn from you.

I'll just give you two links which describe the matter:
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503544940

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503543986
Also, read Marissa's answer above. Her answers are really praiseworthy.