Okay my son is acting like really weird. And I once warned him when he tried to get fresh with me. It has become an habbit of him writing me these weird little 'love' notes, and usually slips them into my pocket book for me to find while at work. The notes aren't vulgar but, the way he expresses him self really makes me think a bit.. it kinda turns my stomach to even think of things like this..
I'm afraid to ask anyone I know about him and how he's behaving. I don't want them thinking he's crazy or anything. And plus it would be rather embarrasing for me as well. The things he would say in the notes would go a little something like this : ''Mom, I'm really happy you're my mom. I just want you to know you're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. And I love you so much. I'm the luckiest kid in the world to have you as a mom. Whenever I'm out with my girl - pals I always think of you. And how you're so much more hotter than them. I often wish you werent my mom, You are so pretty!''
2006-09-24 17:58:16 · 19 answers · asked by Josie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
So I'm wondering what to do? Will he grow out of it? He's 16...
2006-09-24 17:59:03 · update #1
Is this for real....is your son, or has he lately read Greek Lit...say Oedipus
2006-09-24 18:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by loofa36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a child psychiatrist, and let the doctor know your concerns, if you can afford it. The first part of the note sounds normal and actually really thoughtful...but the latter half is a bit peculiar. Maybe he's at the age where his emotions are developing in that area and he's just confused...for example I have this really embarassing memory of kissing my mom on the lips when I was very young (maybe four or five) because that's how I had seen it done on TV...and obviously I became repulsed by the thought when I started to understand what french kissing was.
Because your son is older than this though I can't say what the issues are...but taking him to the doc will be the easiest, most confidential way to figure out what's going on. Good luck!
2006-09-24 18:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by S.G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he has tried to get fresh with you ! How ? Have you always had a real close relationship with him ? How long has he been writing you these notes ? If this is something totally out of the ordinary.....first.....I would sit him down and talk to him ! Then , if that didn't work.....set up an appointment with a counselor ! Don't let it go too long.....this could turn out bad for both of you !
2006-09-24 18:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by lilbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 is tuff. I'm a fella and I can tell you! Your hormones are going nuts, you have 20 erections a day, you are t shy to talk to girls, and you want to try and test some of your skills on those who are close to you because you are afraid of rejection.
Talk to him sternly and explain to him what he's doing wrong or what you see as the problem. He might not know himself as his hormones may be way out.
Do not shut him out or think he is stange. He is under enormous pressure from media, mates, life, girls, thoughts and his body. You need to be firm strong and also loving~!
he will grow out of it, we all do, it may take a few years but sonner with help.
2006-09-24 18:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by gusgus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Specialist is needed.
Be prepared to hear some things that you won't like.
Neither of you.
Be it a jealous father/husband given the age of his son...and insecurity issues within his own marriage
or,
a son expressing deeply emotional (and inappropriate ) feelings publicly. Separation from mommy in the crib was at 14 years old?
It happens...in that event you are having issues with your mother as a youth...get yourself some help along those lines...but in all normal reality and quite honestly, I couldn't image a "real mother" writing within such context.
yoU aRe ScAry
2006-09-24 19:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way is to ask him to live some other place and earn for himself by his own. You have your identity and respect so it's better to stay away from him. Many womens are there who live though don't have single kid. It's better to satay without kid. If you can live without him, it will be good for you as well as for your son, because in anyways he has to work and make his life. If u r al alone it's better to find some one else with whome u can marry or can live. then your son will understand.
2006-09-24 20:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jingle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oedipus complex maybe?
its like a case where a son feels the need to compete with his father for his mom's attention and sometimes, it can be taken TOO far and become plain disturbing
is that a possibility?
whether im right on track or not, this is not typical behavior. you need to take your son somewhere where he can be seen by a psychologist or something like that
2006-09-24 18:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by seavillemontpt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freudian Psychology suggests that it is normal in a male, to at some time in his life, want to kill his father, and marry his mother (of course I got thrown out of class because I said that it was "The other way around", for me), if you're a "MILF", and are wearing leather mini skirts, and heels around the kid, bending over, then it's YOUR fault !
2006-09-24 21:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
takes those notes and find a counselor right away something is wrong and he needs help...some of the note is ok but "hotter worries me" might be ok to say you are cool but HOTTER ummmmmmm
2006-09-24 19:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like obsessive compulsive disorder. Slurred speech doesn't neccessarily mean substance abuse, but it is a possibilty.
2016-03-27 08:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems like a serious problem
how old is your son?
you should get some professional help...first try talking to a psychologist about this alone then if necessary bring ur son
2006-09-24 18:00:39 · answer #11 · answered by Diana_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋