I need help? see i wanna get a place for me and my girl, but noone wants to hire me so I can get this place. i'm 18 and just getting out of high school. I love her very dearly and made her a promise that i'd have a place for her to finally call home. She's 17, turning 18 this year. I wanna marry her when ever i get the chance. She's everything to me. She's Like the hook from that Musiq Soulchild song, "Don't Change": See I'll love you when your hair turns gray, And I'll still want you if you gain a little weight,
The way I feel for you will always be the same
Just as long as your love don't change
I was meant for you and you were meant for me.
And I'll make sure that I'll be everything you need." It doesn't look like I'll be able to get a place before the year's out, and i don't know what to do. Any Advice.
2006-09-24 17:55:52 · 10 answers · asked by Shadow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be realistic, tell her the odds of you getting a place so soon is very unlikely.
its not like she won't love you anymore.
Finding a job at 18 with a limited education(i dont know your situation) that pays well are pretty slim. she should know and understand that. try working together on a solution. maybe both of you can work part time or full time and save...then possible get an apt.
2006-09-24 17:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by J_Riiiiight R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your sentiment for your girlfriend and look at things logically.
What you need is a solid career. You need to evaluate your present circumstances and make good decisions to get hired. First, get help. There are lots of organizations that will help you get hired.
You've got to ask yourself what your skills and experience are.
If you feel you don't have any useful skills or adequate experience, put the new place on hold and establish your footing so you can take care of your lady for the long term.
First, get a basic job doing retail or something simple. The pay sucks, but just remember it's temporary.
Then, go to an inexpensive career school that will prepare you for a specific job field. Find a school that has an extern program so you get on-the-job experience WHILE you train.
While you're in school, focus on your studies like you've never done before. You've got to make yourself the best so that people will WANT to hire you.
Once you've gotten yourself on the right track, your girlfriend will not only love you, as I'm sure she already does, but she'll feel secure. That way, when you finally pop the question, she'll have every reason in the world to say yes. And there will be no regrets.
2006-09-25 01:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known each other? You might just want to know each other a little longer. Have you thought of the possibility that you might have a child on the way? Babies , as cute as they are, are expensive. Are you really sure that is what you want this early in life? How are you going to pay for a place? No job=no money. What are you planning to do about college? In today's world if you don't have a college education the possibilities of a good job are nill.
I would say wait a while and think this over carefully. Moving in together is more that having sex any time you want it.
Take some time and really think about this move. What do your parents say?
Make the right decision. Consider all the angles.
Take it, I know what I am talking about.
2006-09-25 01:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by redhatlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18 to a guy who was 20 and our life was rough. For many years I washed clothes in the bath tub because I could not afford the laundry mat, could not afford new clothes or heat in the winter and of course no air conditioning. He worked hard, went to school at night and it took him 18 years of classes as we could pay for them and finally he finished. He went from an associates, a bachelors, a master and finally a doctorate. I guess what I am saying with the average home here in NC costing at least one hundred and fifty thousand dollars and that's a small home you might want to consider staying at home where your needs are met and going to college to be able to get a good job to support the love of your life. Nothing kills love faster than the fighting that no money brings. Just getting by in a run down apartment and praying for things to get better will only burden you both. If you don't want college at least a trade school. You need to learn a marketable skill in order to take care of a wife and someday a family. Make yourself into the man now that your family of the future will be proud of, make yourself into someone YOU are proud of and when that day comes than marry your love. Good Luck
2006-09-25 01:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by joejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to Montreal, Canada... hey u can get an app here for like 500$ and i mean decent place not a **** hole... and u can get a job too, u won't get anything glamorous with out a degree but u can find something decent. and health care is free!
2006-09-25 01:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Violet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER make promises because NOTHING is promised besides death.
You both need to get jobs to maintain a place of residence.
2006-09-25 00:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont she have a place to call home? is she homeless? whats wrong with u and where do u live that theres not a hard labor job waiting for u to go to work?
2006-09-25 01:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by ThE GreAtEsT thEr eVer wAs! JaNa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enlist.
2006-09-25 00:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lord_Ward 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look for a job first... then if you got a job then by then you could plan...
2006-09-25 01:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, please grow up first... No offense but there is much more to life.
2006-09-25 00:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by hmmm... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋