I want my ex to get over me so he won't feel so bad. How can I do this without doing something drastic or making him hate me? We're still friends but he likes me more than just as friends, and we still hang out together since we're friends with the same group of people. Anyone know how I can make him get over me?
2006-09-24 17:46:01 · 8 answers · asked by wildflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make him get over you, but you can make sure that you aren't doing anything that encourages him not to. Spending time and hanging out together may be confusing him or impairing his ability to move on. A complete break from spending time together, even if it means you have to pass on a few outings with friends for a few months, is probably the healthiest thing to do in this situation.
2006-09-24 18:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by finchfrii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry dear this is a tough situation... I have been in it and was pretty miserable too infact it was just like this except I as the male
was the one who was trying to get over my ex and we were friends and she was the one that broke up with me.
as I look back all I really wanted was for her to be honest with me and tell me that she was ready to date other people and didn't see me in that way becuase we were over... she showed me that that was the way she felt but she never told me and that is why I kept the whole friend thing going on with her and she totally knew that I wasn't over her and I guess just wanted me to get over her.
I am now and I don't hate her but in order for that to happen our circle of friends had to change and I do not talk to her anymore at all. that is what it took and I know that if I started hanging out with her again I would fall for her all over again which is why I can't even be friends with her! she knows how I feel and we have taken appropriate precausions.. anyway I guess my point is tell him its over tell him that you love him but don't want to be with him bla bla it will probably break his heart however it could be worse.... don't let yourself be miserable because of someone else's needs and desires
2006-09-25 00:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may still want you but don't let it get to your head. You can't really make anyone do anything. He's going to have to figure that out for himself, it will hurt him getting over you but that's one lesson in life that he must go through. Life isn't always as smooth as we would like it to be.
2006-09-25 00:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Nobody has that power over another person. Just go on with your life. Just be sure your not giving him mixed signals.
2006-09-25 00:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him that you've moved on with your life. once he sees that you've moved on with your life, he would want to do the same with his and move on with his life. unless you want to make it clear to him that nothing can happen between the two of you other than friendship.
2006-09-25 00:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM DO ANYTHING!
THE BEST WAY TO GET OVER A RELATIONSHIP IS TO START A NEW ONE.
2006-09-25 00:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him or bring some friend whom he can meet
2006-09-25 00:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop spending time together in any capacity.
2006-09-25 00:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋