Have you ever cried or laughed at an inappropriate time? What did you do?

Question

The first time I ever went to a loved ones funeral I laughed because I saw a dead body, I said something like "and it isnt even law and order". I feel really bad about it now, but everyone was crying about the dead body and I thought I could make them laugh... i suck :(

Answer 1

i was at my aunt's funeral. a woman went up to the front and began speaking about how much she missed my aunt. she was so moved by her own speech, she broke out into a song! the fact that she started to sing wasn't a problem. the problem was that she couldn't sing! she sounded horrible! i started to giggle. then my other aunt who was sitting beside me, broke out laughing into her hankerchief. my cousin started to laugh but tried to appear as if he was coughing. i covered my face to appear as if i was crying. all three of us had tears coming from our eyes! but it wasn't because we missed my aunt. the lady's singing was so bad, we couldn't stop laughing! i know it was wrong. i think we were all nervous. we were crying at the beginning of the funeral. but this lady changed the mood for us! all three of us are probably going to hell. i sure hope that lady isn't going to provide the entertainment down there!

Answer 2

Don't be too hard on yourself. Most people know that young people aren't accustomed to the sombre occasion of a funeral. It can make a person nervous, and react in odd ways. It is pretty surreal until you have been to a few funerals.

When I was a young woman, I attended the funeral of a friend. His sister was sitting beside me when she broke into a sudden burst of grief. She had been holding herself together off and on until then. I reacted poorly, but asking her what was wrong. I was thinking that something had set her off at that moment. WHAT'S WRONG???? That was about 20 years ago, and I am still embarrassed by it.

Even at 36 years old, I have one friend that I can't sit with at funerals because we giggle too much. I don't do this with anyone else, and behave appropriately when she isn't sitting beside me. It is just that we are neither religious, and to break the tension during the religious part of the service, we make little jokes and prods. We turn into school girls. I'll have to leave her a note in my will about how she not sit next to me in my coffin in case she makes me laugh at my own funeral.

Answer 3

Yes, I have both crying and laughing stories:

When I was about 9, my parents told me they wanted to have another child (previously I had been an only child). I was so very excited. So one day, both of my grandparents' house where I was visiting and asked me to sit down with them since they had something very important to tell me. I was SOOO excited, because I was absolutely certain that they would be telling me that my mother was pregnant. But instead, they told me that my uncle by marriage, who I barely knew because he was practically a recluse in his own home, had committed suicide. I started bawling like a baby. And my parents were trying to console me and were terribly confused over why I would be so upset since I barely knew the man, and I was SOOOO embarassed about having to explain the reason I was upset, and I felt so selfish that I would cry over not having a baby brother or sister but not over my uncle's death. My mom did get pregnant just a month or two after that.

And once, in high school, I was on a field trip and we were walking outside with my absolute favorite teachers when one fell
and smashed up her face. I was mortified, but I couldn't stop giggling.

Don't know why we react this way.

Answer 4

It is pretty common to react to shocking things with laughter, even if it is at an inappropriate time.

I always get the urge to laugh when I hear something awful. It is beacuse you are disturbed by soemthing and the brain just wants to lighten things up I guess.

No one will hold against you what you did at the funeral. Everyone reacts differently, and if I'd died I'd actually appreciate a wee bit of humor at my funeral!

Don't stress!

Answer 5

Haha! convinced, I have, surely. nicely, hmm. My tale is more beneficial about inappropriate cheering... our college had an assembly for the mag stress, and there have been samples of magazines that got here up. anybody cheered quite loudly for the more beneficial glaring ones, like Obama or McCain, and style or maybe if. besides, at one aspect, somewhat one mag got here up - you recognize, only for moms? and that i screamed, only for the heck of it. curiously i change into the in worry-free words one which had cheered it on, and so as that change into especially awkward. yet then I laughed quite complicated afterwards because of it. :]

Answer 6

Yes. My ex-girlfriend's mother was killed in a car crash. When I went to her house to pick up my son she and everyone were outside. she told me the news and I laughed out loud. Needless to say no one was amused, but I couldn't stop laughing. I had to get in my vehicle and leave. This lady tormented me from day one. She made my life and my infant son's a living hell. I laughed because i was relieved she was gone. I know it's horrible, but sometimes people relieve stress in odd ways.

Answer 7

The more uncomfortable or nervous I am at any moment.....the stupider the words and/or reaction that I seem to choose at that moment.

I wish I only had one memory of "the time I acted like a complete idiot"....unfortunately I can't choose just one, to type here....there are so many of those awkward times. sigh.

Answer 8

Sometimes we don't know what to say at times like this. I have said things when I was nervous that I later regretted and was embarrassed after I said them. No one is perfect.

Answer 9

i've done somrething like that .
only it was my aunt's sister that died and we did not know each other, but it hurt our close family members because it they were close to her. . . anyway. After we formed a long line to see the corpse, and saw it. . . I "quietly" said. . ."i'm glad that's over" . . .
and my parents and a few other people heard it, they were insulted.
They got over it, and I got over in less than a day...
it still was bad that i said that, but you'll get over it, so will they.What's said is said, Just try not to say things like that again.
BTW..since your loved one died, what you did was most likely one of the stages.

Answer 10

Dang, girl....you pretty much sucked at that moment, eh? Oh, well, the sky didn't open up and pull you away, did it? Everyone that breathes has said something REALLY stupid. Democrats say stupid stuff all the time --- the point is you live and learn.