2006-09-24 16:58:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, not on the invitation itself. Some people insert a business-size card with the names of the places registered.
Traditionally speaking, it's improper to mention gifts at all, but so many people do it now, it's being overlooked.
2006-09-24 17:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allrighty, young lady, this is your Yahoo! Answers Grandmother talking. There is somebody in here every three days, asking if it is oK to put a "I want" list in a wedding invite. You already knew it wasn't, or you wouldn't be asking! No, it is not OK, nor is it OK to put a note in the shower invitation, either. It is rude, and it is blatently putting the recieveing of presents before the wedding itself.
I'm, sorry, but why are you having a wedding? Just put the "I want" list in an envelope send it to the would be wedding guests, and skip the wedding, since it appears that it is fashionable to have a sham wedding to get presents anyway!
Whatever happened to romance, love, a ceremony promising to love and honor, why get a minister? Why the white dress?
Just have a big party, and of course charge people to come to it, since you and hubby are just starting out, and you can't afford the party yourselves..
In the olden times of the last generation or two, it used to be fun to sneak around behind the bride's back, and get information to get her just the right gift. You get to talk to her Mom, the bridesmaids, and get juicy gossip tidbits about the wedding, and what the bride really wants for her wedding present. Where's the fun for the gift giver in your way to get gifts? "I have this list, now I am going to the grocery store of wedding gifts and get..."
I have yet to hear someone in the last ten years say, Oh, boy, got a wedding invitation! Now they say, wonder how much this is gonna cost me, and generally feel used. Don't you care who is in the seats? Just so they have a present, one you picked out!
Don't your want happy people at your wedding? Don't you want your real Gramma in the 2nd pew, of the church, beaming with pride, and not worrying about if she will choose to eat or have her prescriptions filled, because she spent the next three months of social security
checks on your mandatory wedding presents?
Here is how it is done. You tell lthe bridesmaids, the grandmothers and mothers. You and they wait to be asked, and those who ask, get the list. People know to call and ask. If they don't, they need a Yahoo! grandmother, too. You are supposed to know that you register in more than one place, if you have an online registry, you know that all the stores are online, too.
OK, listen to your grandma, now, young lady, and have a lovely wedding. and forgive my spelling, spell check isn't working, again.
2006-09-25 02:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, there is a bridal shower that takes place before the wedding. It is appropriate to insert a small card that has information regarding gift registries with that invitation.This is the usual way to inform people where you are registered for both wedding and bridal shower gifts. they can usually go on line and see what you have picked out and order something for both the shower and the wedding (two separate occasions). The shower gift us usually brought to the shower, while the wedding gift can be shipped directly to your house, or more modernly, brought to the wedding.
The wedding invitation should only have the actual invite, and if you need to give a small map for directions and/or a response cards with stamped envelope, those can be included with the wedding invitation.
2006-09-25 00:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would be in bad taste. Your invitation is just that .. you are inviting guests to your wedding. It is no problem for guests to find where you have registered, and they can do this at the stores by asking, or by asking you, or if you've registered online at various places, the service will send your requests to the stores you've registered at, so guests don't have to know about your online registry at all. If they have computers, they'll most likely look it up anyway, or you can even email them yourself, or have the service send them an announcement ... just depends on how your online service works. Best wishes!
2006-09-25 00:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no registry stuff never go on any part of the invitation or save the date cards. The best way to get the word out is to let your mom and family know where you are registered then they can tell people. Any questions the invitees have should be directed to your mother anyways.
2006-09-25 17:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rita S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Ask Miss Manners, she'd give you a huge wedgie for that. You can't mention anything about gifts on the invitation, but you can tell people about the registry if they ask about what to get you.
2006-09-25 00:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that would be very tacky. If people need help choosing gifts, they may contact someone in the family, and then can be told about the registry.
2006-09-26 07:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not on the invitation. slip in a small card saying "the bride and groom are registered at..."
2006-09-25 00:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Olive 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. How else are they going to know what to get?
2006-09-25 00:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by babegirll23 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
NO.
2006-09-25 12:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by logical_centrist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋