I don't know what's the right thing to do. Are we rude if we don't go, or would we be expected to attend? My future d-i-l says she understands if we don't go, but I don't want to start off on the wrong foot. We barely know her parents, and they are also invited to attend another shower in our hometown. We don't know if they're going to attend yet. What should we do? I don't want to have any regrets. But on the other hand, it's a long way to drive. We will send a gift either way.
2006-09-24 16:56:40 · 30 answers · asked by smallvillesmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you should go... two hours is not that far away, and it would probably mean a lot to your future daughter-in-law if you took the time and effort to get to know her family.... it's only one day out of your life
2006-09-24 17:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fill up the car, you are going to a shower. Honey, if you don't go you are going to worry about it anyways. So, if I were in your position, I would go. It would be nice if you could spend a little time before the shower or after with your son's new family. I think when the families can be on good terms with each other it helps the couple. My daughter's in-laws have been more than kind to us. We don't think we are going to have any problems til the babies start coming then, we plan on trying to share, but we will just have to wait and see.
One set of my daughter's in-laws live 4 1/2 hours away, and when we would attend an event there, we would spend the night at a hotel, and share at least one meal with their family. I think it would be nice for you to go to make the trip, and really a 2 hour trip isn't so bad. And I think the benefits will out weigh the reasons not to go. So, fill up the car, you are going to a shower.
Please....
God bless us all.........
2006-09-25 01:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right, you don't want to start off on the wrong foot. Look at it this way. If you go, it may be boring, a long drive etc. If you don't go, it could be the start of a long time bitter relationship between you and the in-laws. You never know.... but why risk it? Is it really that big of an inconvenience? It's a tough call but I would say that it's probably a better idea to just grit your teeth and bare it!
Good Luck!
2006-09-25 05:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by kristina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How is 2 hours that far of a drive? You can make it up and back in the same day.
I think that you should go if possible. It's not rude to stay home, but it does show caring and love if you attend. The more supportive you can be, the better off you are. Not just with the bride to be, but also her parents, and it's showing family unity to the couple's friends.
2006-09-24 18:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it too much to ask you to drive a couple of hours for someone who's marrying your son and will be your daughter-in-law for the rest of your natural life? If this were me there wouldn't even be any question ... I'd definitely go. My in-laws didn't have the time of day for me before I married their son, and it took me a long time to "forgive and forget." Some people can forgive but never will forget. (Sorry - I don't mean to sound negative.)
This would also be a great opportunity for you to get to know her parents a little better. Chances are you'll be spending holidays together sometime in the future. Whether or not they attend the shower in your area, make the most of this opportunity. Even if you were to send a gift, the message you'd be sending if you choose not to go is: "she's not worth the time it takes for me to drive there."
So get over the 2-hour drive and go. You'll be glad you did and you won't have any regrets. If you don't go, you'll later say to yourself "I wish I had."
Good luck and have fun!!
2006-09-24 17:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by monkeymom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 22:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by grewe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. This will help start your relationship with your new DIL and her family off on the right step. This is also a good way to learn more about her as she will be in the company of her friends and family and will therefore more likely be the real her. You may find out just how sweet a girl she really is. It will also be a sign to her parents to attend the shower in your home town.
2006-09-26 12:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by GPHS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thought Showers were more of a woman/friends
get together.
Send the gift.
You will have plenty of time for get togethers.
I just reread it. If the Parents come to your
hometown for a shower, can you invite them to dinner?
The Shower is not the Wedding.
You still have the Wedding practice dinner to attend.
2 hrs for me is along ride by car, unless I get a room.
You could do that.
2006-09-24 17:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by elliebear 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should go. 2 hours is not that big of deal, unless the weather is really bad in which it's not safe to drive. My first year of college I drove back and forth every day and it's an hour one way, so doing a 2 hour drive once is not so bad.
2006-09-24 17:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two hours is not that far away. I think it'd be understandable if it were 4, 5 or 6 hours away (or more), but 2 hours just ain't that far. It's not super-convenient, sure, but it's a day trip. I'd just suck it up and go. Might as well make nice during the beginning stages.
2006-09-24 17:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Two hours is a long way to drive? What do you drive an Amish buggy. Get in the darn car and drive over and meet the brides parents. They will long forget what you gave as a gift buy they will long remember that you were there.
2006-09-24 17:01:57 · answer #11 · answered by lily 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋