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How do i tell my dad?
I have a boyfriend that is 6yrs older then me. We been seeing each other for about 2months. My dad has met him but I told my dad we were just friends. Now i want to tell him that i am going out with him so i can see him more often but i dont no how to tell my dad. So plz help. need advice! by the way i am 14 and he is 20 but i am really mature for my age a lot of ppl tell me that i act like i am between 16 and 18 even most of my family says that.

Answer 1

First of all, it really depends on how strict your parents are. but start by getting your parents used to him being around you. if they already are (with u guys being friends) then they may just be able to accept the news. chances are anyways, that they already know or have a hint (depending on how much time you spend with this guy). good luck!

Answer 2

If you tell your Dad, he can put your boyfriend in jail- really. Doesn't your boyfriend realize this??? I know it's hard to see now, but putting the legal issues aside- it's not the 6 year age difference....it's the 6 year difference at YOUR ages. If you were 25 & 31 that could work or 33 & 39..but you grow so much from 14 to 20. You'll see when your 20 just how young 14 is. I'm not saying your not mature at 14....maybe you are. If you are, then you'll be able to handle your Dads reaction.

Answer 3

I had this same issue when I started dating my husband, well almost. I was 18 and he was 27. My dad liked him before I started dating him but was very angry when I told him that we were dating. I was 18 thank God and could do as I pleased but always wanted my daddy's approval and finally got it. We are now happily married for 6 wonderful years and my husband is my father's best friend. The difference between me and you are I was 18 and you are 14. Think about this...why would someone who is 20 and able to do whatever they felt like doing want with a child (sorry but that's what you are whether you act like it or not). The guy should know better I mean not only is it illegal but I think it is kind of sick for a man to want to date a child. Your dad will more than likely be very angry with you and this man for wanting to date. Find someone your own age who you can have a good time with.

Answer 4

OK, your dad should be upset and you should be ashamed! You are still a little girl by law and by fact. This guy should be in jail and if he touches you your dad can put him there. And I hope he does! Mature for your age! Who are the people that tell you this? Just by the fact that you are asking this question you are showing how immature you really are. And I am sure you family means your demeanor, not your common sense! Any man, yes at 21 the law considers him a man that gets involved with a 14 year old girl should be in jail. And one more thing, if he has sex with you and gets caught, he must register as a child molester! This will follow him for the rest of his life! And he will do time in jail,. The other prisoners love child molesters. They become the focal point for molestation themselves. Do you want that? If you are so mature for your age, prove it! Get rid of this creep! Before you get him locked up! Don't ruin your life. Are you old enough and mature enough to raise a baby?
I know that I am being harsh on you young lady but I have seen far to many young girls ruin their lives this way.
After you get rid of this guy give you dad a hug. He loves you.

Answer 5

People always think I'm several years older than my actual age, even back when I was your age, but that doesn't mean you're mature. You're just a kid! You need to be focusing on your schooling instead of a boyfriend. I should think your dad would have had a problem with a 20yo guy being your 'friend.' If this guy cares about you at all, he will wait until you're 18 before he calls you his girlfriend. I know what it's like to be young and really like an older guy. Believe me, it won't work until you're older. I didn't get a boyfriend until I was graduated from HS and out on my own. There's plenty of time to have a boyfriend. If you can, talk to you dad about it. Be honest with him. Maybe he can explain a few things to you that will help you do what you need to do...and that is to wait until you're 18 to be with this guy. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Wow honey slow down! You do need to tell your dad. How you tell your dad depends on how approachable he is. Either way pick a time when he is in a good mood and remember what ever answer he gives you, it's for your best.
I have to say as far as this MAN your seeing goes. Honey, it doesn't matter how mature you are for your age. That is a big age difference and you are not old enough to handle the expectations this MAN will be wanting. Your young. You have real feelings, needs, and emotions yes. But you need to salvage what childhood you still have. In 6 years if that MAN still wants you then thats fine. You see yourself, and others may see you as mature now, but you still have soooo far to go before your ready for a relationship in which a 20 year old MAN will want. If he loves you he will back off and wait for you a few years and let you enjoy your youth without harrassing you to move ahead. I don't know what all you have experienced, but I beg you to slow down. I remember being 14 and I made alot of mistakes. Please, please tell your dad and please respect yourself. Find someone your age honey, before it's too late. If you love this MAN you will let him go as well. Do you love him enough to put him at risk with the law? Do you love yourself enough to say NO when he moves farther, faster than you even know?

Answer 7

Yikes. I am sorry hunny but this is bad news. I do not think you should stay with him. You have 4 years till you are legal and I can not believe you are happy dating a 20 year old. I am going to be a COP and if I pulled you and him over and you told me you two were dating I would take you home and give him stern warning. If he is a real man he would date someone his own age. Do not keep going on with this. It does not matter how old you act. It matter how old you are. Do not tell your dad, date boys your age and when you are 16 and he is 24 maybe you two can go out again.

Answer 8

OK your 14 and he is twenty?????? First of all what does a man see in a child regardless of how mature you may act or appear to be this is something that you should get away from. not only is this guy treading on dangerous territory but something is wrong with a 14yr old and a 20 yr old dating. I also don't think any parent with a sound mind would let this happen.

Answer 9

Give dad the benefit of the doubt...just come out and tell him...I'm sure he'll be thrilled to know that his daughter wants to date a pedophile! I don't care how old you act, you are FOURTEEN! What is that? An eighth grader? What in the world can you and a 20 year old have in common? Either he's really immature or he's got a hidden agenda honey...wisen up. You claim to be so mature....start thinking!

Answer 10

I know your father would not approve. I am a parent. I would rather my daughter come to me and tell me than find out through other means...including an unexpected pregnancy.

I do not know what your definition of "date" is, but a 20yo male has nothing in common with a 14yo girl on an intellectual level, at the very least. If by "dating" you mean having sexual relations, I would strongly advise you to stop this behavior and right now. Even if YOU consent to sex, HE can still be charged with statutory rape depending on the laws of your state.

It only takes one time and the next thing you know, you are sitting before your father, having to tell him you are pregnant by a 20yo "friend."

Your parents trust you to be honest with them and you owe them that if you want them to trust YOU.

I do not know if you know what a pedophile is, but I have a feeling that you are not the first underage female this young man has been with. Pedophiles are men or women of age who seek out sex with underage children...you fall into that category as you are not yet an adult or of legal age.

I cannot predict how your father will react (with 100% accuracy, that is) but I know that it would be better for you and this 20yo guy to break off this relationship now. Dear, he is not interested in having 14yo "friends," so I believe you know where this "friendship" is leading to and it's going to go down bad for someone at some point in time. You will be found out.

Contrary to popular belief, parents are not clueless these days.

Good luck.

Answer 11

well, if he's 20 and yr 14, he's a pervert. Don't you have friends your age. And at your age, don't make commitments...you are still too young. As you grow up your views will change. And how do you know you are mature enough for this guy. And your dad is soooooo going ot freak out.