I'M A 21 YEAR OLD FEMALE AND STILL A VIRGIN MY MOM DOESN'T LET ME HANG OUT WITH ANYBODY. ALSO SHE TAKE MY STUFF LIKE PHONES THAT I PAID FOR WITH MY MONEY. SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME WORKING OR GOING TO SCHOOL BECAUSE SHE SAYS, SHE WANTS ME TO SPEND TIME WITH HER. I THINK IT IS MEAN. I'm 21 AND STILL HAVEN'T WENT OUT ANY WHERE YET.i need to live
2006-09-24 16:38:28 · 18 answers · asked by DANNYGIRL21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are 21, move away from home and have your own life. Only you can control your life at 21 and you can move out and do what you want to do. In Canada we can do what we want at 18. Once I was done school I moved out, I was 21.
2006-09-24 16:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has issues. Any mother that doesn't support her adult child's decision to go to school or work definately has issues and you need to get out of her house.
If you can go live with your father or another relative until you can find a job or go to school or something to get on your own two feet.
This is no different than an abusive controlling relationship between bf and gf or husband and wife. If it were me I would make the arrangements and leave while your mother is at work. Do not confront her about this until you are in a safe place.
Your mother I'm sure loves you but is using you to fill voids in her own life. She has serious issues that need to be dealt with however, it is not your responsibility to deal with them.
If you have no where else to go then seek out a battered woman's shelter because what you are experiencing is no different than being an abused spouse.
Some may think I am over reacting and I would think that myself if it weren't for the fact that you stated that your mother does not like you working or going to school. This is the actions of a controlling abuser (I had a bf like that once).
2006-09-24 16:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious??? If you are 21, working, and going to school, why are you still living at home under these circumstances????? Try looking for a room mate or two and get an apartment with them!!!!
Let your mom know that you love her, but that you are an adult now. You need to learn how to function on your own without her telling you what to do in every little situation. Take my advice on this....It will be much easier to do it this way at 21 than to try and do it when you are 31, are married, and have children and your mom is still trying to control you. But then, she will be trying to tell you how to handle your husband and children. Nip it in the bud!!!!
As far as being a virgin, if that is your decision, ROCK ON with your bad self!!! That is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of!!!
2006-09-24 16:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by ktjokt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 21 you could have moved out by now then your mom cant take your stuff and get a job then you can hang out with people and have your own say and do what you want you could have left home at 18 or 19 and you then can live your own life.
2006-09-24 17:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kara L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that you mother is doing all that to you because she's a very lonely woman, single with practically no friends or any hobbies. Otherwise I can't think of any other reasons. If that's somewhat true you'd have to help her get a life, or get some help for her, she does need help. There is no reason at 21, you're kept from doing anything. Do you have a father or any other person close to you who can help you?
2006-09-24 16:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by longliveabcdefg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!!!!!!!!!!That has got 2 b killn cho, i am 16 nd have total freedom i have already moved out of home.You are a grown adult you can move out weneva you lyk nd remind her of that. Tell her that clinging on to you is only gona make you pull away harder nd wen you do snap it aint gona b pretty explain to her you are not a child nymore. If she takes yr propertie away that you paid for that is so not fair it is not hers nd should not have the right to take it away. Have you eva thought of movn out of hme wif sum friends? Because yr mums behavour if continued will lead you to snap! I fell so sorry for you nd can not even begin 2 know how i would cope nd would love to know how things go!
2006-09-24 17:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Li-momma I don't want to sound mean but it is what it is you gotta get a job and move out your grown now.If u you dint make the first step she is always going to to hold u down.Are start going to school so that , when you do decide to move out you can have some thing on your resume.
2006-09-24 16:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by LADY N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and find an apartment of your own, or with a roommate if needed. As long as you act like a child (by living at home) she'll treat you like one.
2006-09-24 16:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about everything u want. Maybe it will hurt your mum hurt,but we must take first leap to change something.Leave your house for awhile.Go find some space.Take a deep breath and hang out with someone u like.
2006-09-24 16:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini_gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 21 you need to move out of your mom house you are grown and your mom treat you like you are a child. you need to let her know how you feel about the way she treat you. get your own place
2006-09-24 16:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋