he ends up not doing even though they mean a lot to you? When he promises you things then breaks them? How am I supposed to handle my anger? Sometimes I love him, and other times I hate him... I know he loves me but still... I cant count on him..
2006-09-24 16:25:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him.
2006-09-24 16:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cait,
I hate to tell you this, but this isn't far from the way most guys are. Since you and Brock are so young, there is a part of it that's immiturity.
Many times guys will say, "yes" to something just to shut there better half up. If somethings really important, stress this to him, don't just mention it to him in passing.
You mention, "how am I supposed to handle my anger?" Sounds to me as if this anger is easily turned on. Am I right in this assumpption?
If my wife started yelling at me (becuase she was angry about . . . . whatever) telling me to take out the trash, mow the lawn, fix the light over the stove. I can tell you right now, it's in one ear and out the other. Chances are I will never do any of these things, unless I notice myself that they need to be taken care of.
On the other hand if my wife comes up and puts her arm around me and ask me change the light bulb in the garage, followed by a kiss. As soon as she lets go (or I get dressed), I'm off to change a light bulb.
Some women (people) just don't have a clue how their other half (people) works.
My (male) Boss at work screams at our whole department and tells us what dumb-asses we all are anythime theres a costly error and then he's all pissed off that no one appears remorseful about the said error. What he doesn't realize is that once our butt-chewing is all over, that's it as far as we we're all concerned, slate's clear!
My previous (male) boss in the same situation would come to all of us individually and tell us to please check our work more closely and then tell us what a valuble asset to the company we were and that he counted on all of us to make him look good in front of his superiors, aside from the fact that we dirrectly influenced his bonuses and everythime we made a mistake it would mean he might not get a bonus at all.
So, any time I made a mistake under the old bosses reign, I felt horrible, as if I had let a friend down.
So, the way you come across is just as important as your boyfriend's responce.
Another issue between women and men communicating is, unless you spell it out for us, we don't know what things, mean a lot to you!"
So, quit trying to use (female) common knowlege to figure out what or why Brock is doing whatever.
Also, sit down and don't yell be sweet and sincere and tell him how you feel, just like you did tonight on Yahoo Answers.
Good luck and just remember we're two completely different animals, you (women) and I (men).
2006-09-24 23:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by De Expert 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
does he know how hurt you get when he misses out of thing that are important to you. You could either tell him straight off or you could try to do a few things that will make him realise its a two way thing. Or just blow your top at him once. It's good coz otherwise it builds up inside you and you wind up having really bad days and blowing off at innocent ppl and he gets to know how much you hurt.
2006-09-24 23:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the fundamental elements of real love is trust. If you can't trust him or count on him then he doesn't really love the way he says that he does. You need to make it unmistakably clear that he cannot treat you like that and if he doesn't shape up then you need to dump him, because you don't deserve to be treated like that. You only deserve the best.
2006-09-24 23:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by im_just_me_612 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him very much there are two ways. Either do what he says or try to be firm and explain to him that it is not for you. Or the last thing is tell him to get lost.
2006-09-24 23:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by crochetspecialist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Does he keep more promises than he breaks. Second, do you REALLY love him I mean really?If you love them you love them always, and remember you can't change anybody so is this how you want your relationship to be??
2006-09-24 23:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by tink_1624 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is not depend/rely on him so much. Don't believe in what he says. Obviously his words aren't worth his weight in gold. Be prepared to have other plans for the times he doesn't show up. Live for yourself - not for his words!!!!
2006-09-24 23:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then don't count on him. Tell him exactly what's bothering you and if shrugs it off or/and keeps doing it, that shows you how much he cares. And if he gives you that impression you're better off alone darling. Good luck.
2006-09-24 23:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Zaphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start looking for someone you can count on. This one is just dangling you on his "string". he's keeping you out of circulation for his convenience. He doesn't care whether you're happy or not! He's a player
2006-09-24 23:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever seen you angry? Maybe u need to let u know how fed up you are with his broken promises. Let it all out when u talk to him so he can see that u are not joking.
2006-09-24 23:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man doesn't care about the things that are important to you, then he isn't a very good boyfriend.
2006-09-24 23:28:15 · answer #11 · answered by becka06096 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋