My daughter?????

Question

My daughter is 11 years old and in the 6th grade, she has a male teacher. but she has just started her period, durring school! she was mortified... and she waited in the bathroom over an hour, waitng for her teacher to send someone.. he sent her best friend... and she helped her out by giving her a pad. and explaining to the teacher what was going on then tok her down to her second grade teacher (like her second mother) and she took care of her. My daughter doesnt know how to tell her MALE teacher the reason she needs to call her for a pad every so often or needs to go change... any ideas at all!? thank you.

Answer 1

I went through that problm tell your duaghter to simply tell the teacher that she is having female problems or somthing like that the teacher will know he's probly married and probly have been teaching for a while all girls go through there period at this age hes had to deal with it before. Best of Luck

Answer 2

Uhm first of all the teacher is not a jerk, this is not the first case where a 6th grade teacher has had a child that needs to go to the office or see another teacher for this very same reason. If your child is having issues talking about her problems with her teachers, maybe she should try talking to you??!! Sounds to me that she is completely in the dark, and since you are the parent and not the teacher I suggest you take the responsibility here. As another suggested, she should be carrying the personal items she needs with her, teachers are not personal sanitation dispensers. Boys and girls go to use the restroom, if anyone is in there for more than 20 minutes someone will be checking on them (though I am sure for your daughter it seemed like over an hour), as not only is it disrupting the flow of the classroom there are safety issues involved.

So my idea is to discuss the changes your daughter is going through with her, and then equip her to handle those changes. Even an 11 yr old girl can ask to use the restroom or go to the office. (and a 6th grade teacher, male or female, will not question the phrase "personal reasons" ... but if you feel you need to write a note to the teacher, I am sure he can assure you as well)

Answer 3

It is an embarrassing thing for a young girl her age to have to explain to a guy about her getting her period! I understand how she feels. Maybe if you were to talk to the school nurse and then she can explain the issue at hand with the teacher with out embarrassing your daughter might help! I felt the same way when I got mine at 11. It was scared and my mom or another female was easier to talk to then a guy! I still to this day have trouble even talking to my husband about mine....lol!! But try talking with the school nurse and have her explain to the teacher what is happening!! Also have your daughter keep a pad in her locker and in her backpack. Have her carry it in her back pocket on the days she has her period so she won't have to worry about not being prepared!! Have her chart when she will have it and when she gets it! Count the days between each cycle and she will know when she is due for it again each time!! Good Luck!

Answer 4

I started mine in the summer just before 6th grade and my 6th grade teacher was a man as well. I cant tell you how many times I started at school and had to go to the nurses office. I remember wearing a white skirt and having to walk backwards with a friend covering it, (I dont know why I was walking backwards it seemed like a good Idea at the time!) I would call the teacher and let him know that she started and that she will just say I dont feel well I need to go to the nurse, then he will know not to question anymore and she wont have to go into details. The nurse should have them in the office or have your daughter keep one in her backpack. Now a days they are so discret even with the packaging so it doesnt crinkle. Back when we were kids the only ones they had were those ones they gave you after you have a baby! Trust me I wish my mom got more involved in this matter just about every memory I have of 6th grade has to do with my univited guest as school!

Answer 5

I would discuss this with the teacher in private. If she is that mortified then she shouldn't have to tell him anything. Another thing to do is have her keep a pad in her locker. purse, or book bag at school so it is there. If you have a school nurse you can discuss it with her as well. Our nurse knows what is going on with our daughter and is "on call" if something happens. If she has to go to the bathroom and he gives her trouble, tell her to just walk out of the class and go, if she gets in trouble for that, you take it up with the principal immediately.

Answer 6

Tell your daughter to just ask to go to the bathroom. If the teacher needs more of an explination then tell her to tell him that it is for a personal reason. The teacher can't tell her not to go to the bathroom. Buy her a purse to carry her pads in so that she is not embarrassed to have them showing at school.

Answer 7

You need to talk to the teacher about how he wishes this to be handled. Don't make your daughter do it. After you have spoken with the teacher, then tell your daughter what she needs to do. Basically, you'd think all she needs is tell him she needs to visit the restroom and that should be enough. Have her keep what she needs in her backpack or locker, even her pocket, so she doesn't have to ask anyone else. If she's more independent with it, she'll feel more comfortable. I'd discourage light colored clothes until she gets the hang of it. But don't make a big deal about it or she'll feel embarrassed more than necessary.

Answer 8

u as a mother should confront the teacher if ur daughter feels 2 uncomfortable about the situation or just say its a personal thing, even though common sense will tell the teacher the problem

Answer 9

wait.. the teacher is giving her problems about using the lav? I'd call the principal and say something. These are teens we are talking about.. the teacher should know better and not stop her from using the bathroom.

Poor girl. have her carry a purse and stash the pads in there and change it in between classes.

Answer 10

I would call or email the teacher and tell him to save her the embarrassment -- she doesn't have to know he knows. I had this happen to me with a mean eraser throwing coach/teacher. I had to tell him, no choice, and he handled it like a pro. Changed my impression of him forever. Anyway, I would let the teacher know and have your daughter carry some of what she needs in a purse of little bag in her school bag. MANY girls her age and younger have their periods these days. When I taught school I had 3rd graders with it already!