My boyfriend and I brokeup but we remained friends, but now he has this new interest?

Question

We broke up because of a distance factor and agreed to remain friends. I want to be suportive of his new crush and possible girlfriend but it tears me up inside to hear about her and I end up Crying by the end of the day. He has no clue, I want to remain his friend but don't know if I handle this situation. I don't want to lose him as a friend, it would be almost impossible to not talk to him; but I wonder if real time apart would be a good thing in order to get him out of my system, the only problem is I don't think I could just cut him out of my life like that. Either way I end up hurt.

Answer 1

It sounds like ur in a bad situation, u want to be friends with him yet u don't want to hear about his new girl( it's normal to feel this way) because u still have deep feelings for him that u haven't let go of

U can always tell him that as much as u tried u don't think u can handle hearing about him& another( not yet anyway)

Meanwhile sweet u need to move on just like he did, once u have found yourself a guy who u really like and like u, it makes it easier for u to accept.

U can still be his friend but tell him u rather not hear about him and another girl.

Godd Luck sweetie, I understand because I had to go thru this a few times and it can hurt, but as I say u just have ato move on and it will become easier once u have another in ur life.

Answer 2

Breakups are going to be hard. Its ok to be friends but usually that doesnt happen for a while. It seems like you still have feelings there and want to be with him more than friends. You need to move on because he is. And yes it will be worse to stay close with him if he dates someone else when you still have feelings. It will be hard but you need to get used to not talking to him. Get used to not calling him everyday. Its an emotional attachment that you need to break so you can eventually be happy. You dont need to be rude about it but just tell him you really care about him but you think it would be better for you if yall didnt talk as much so that you can really move on. And after a certain point you will know its ok to be friends, and you wont feel anything more than that. But by that point you will probably have someone else you want to talk to even more. good luck.

Answer 3

That is what you need, time part. I do not think it would be wise for you to be friends right now. You both need to get on with your life for the time being and then you can come back to it later. It will be very hard for you too see him moving on. I think you should get away and keep yourself busy. Find a new bf or take up a hobby. Whatever takes your mind off of him would be good.

Answer 4

you cant be friends with someone you are in love with. emotions run to high. when you talk to him, see him, hear about him, having the feelings you do for him will be in the way. you have to let him go. you cant be ok with his new crush cause it will only hurt you. you have to let him go and move on. love doesnt have a distance rule if its true love. love has no rules if its true love between you both. seems to me he is so willing to move on and be with others, seems he isnt hurting at all he is moving on..i think you should to, i know it hurts, but you cant dwell on something that is just not there. good luck hun. sorry you are going threw this.

Answer 5

Just tell him you want to be friends and you're glad he's found someone but for a while it's kinda hard to hear how happy he is with his new person.

If he really is your friend and he cares about your feelings he'll stop talking about this part of his life.

Maybe this is a sign that it's time to move on....still keep in touch but not so involved.

Answer 6

I think you should talk to him and be honest about your feelings with him. Let him know that this hurts you, and maybe he can agree to not talk about her to you, at least for awhile. If that does not work, you may have to take a step back and remain distant for awhile until you are able to get things into perspecive. Maybe one day you will be able to hear about her, but for now, at least your being honest about your feelings, and I think you should be honest with him.

Good Luck!

Dee

Answer 7

yeah but if you cut him out of your life now, the hurt will eventually go away.
if you stay friends with him,the hurt will never go away and you will set yourself up to be vulnerable to the next guy that could be a big jerk you know.
be careful and let him go now and let the pain begin. before you know it the pain will go. support yourself by hanging out with supportive gals, not guys. have an emergency pint of your favorite ice cream for those crying nites. it helps alittle. :)

Answer 8

WELL IT IS GOING TO DRIVE YOU INSANE IF YOU KEEP TALKING TO HIM AND HEARING ABOUT HIS NEW GIRL. YOU MAY WANT TO DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM HIM FOR A LITTLE WHILE. TAKE SOME TIME TO HEAL YOURSELF FIRST AND THEN WHEN YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY READY, GET BACK INTO TOUCH WITH HIM. AT ANY RATE YOU SHOUDL EXPLAIN TO HIM HOW YOU FEEL. IF HE IS A TRUE FRIEND HE WILL BE UNDERSTANDING AND SUPPORTIVE. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.

Answer 9

I would deffinatly give it some time. Let your feelings settle. If you can't stand to be apart from him, then simple tell him that you can't handle him talking about his new crush. You can't worry about how he will take it...These are your emotions here.

Answer 10

I know how you feel! I'm a male and I can relate. If you want to talk about it, then reach me at [e-mail] It's nice to have a friend to talk to.