How were you raised, and is that how you raise your children?

Question

I grew up in a small country town in Texas, and it wasn't until I was in my 20's that I realized that not all children were raised like how me and my brother, and my friends were raised. I guess you could say I grew up sheltered but I was actually in shock to discover that not all people believed as my family and my friends families believed. Here is how I was raised:
I hardly ever disrespected my parents. If I did, I was grounded.
We went to church on Sundays, I went to Sunday school and Bible study on Wednesday. I went to church camp and I babysat for our preacher. Drinking and smoking were not allowed. If you did do that, you had better hope to heck that you didn't get caught. If an unmarried girl got pregnant, she and the father got married. Even if they divorced later on, the child would not be labled a bastard.The elderly people in the community were respected. I did not cause trouble at school. Abortion, child abuse, spouse abuse, promiscuity and drugs were horrible.

I do live in a small country town in Texas now, though not the same one, and it is the same way. I guess I was nieve in believing that everyone was raised this way, but I honestly didn't know anything about drugs, Athiests, child abuse or unmarried teens having kids. I find all that really sad and I will not raise my kids any other way than how my brother and I were raised.

I will teach my children Christianity because, regardless of what others may believe, I believe that it is my job as a mother and a Christian to lead my children to God. I don't want to be responsible for my children not becoming Christians. I love my parents that they lead me that way.

Answer 1

it's what i call good old southern raising too bad the young parents of today don't do it the world would be a better place and the kids would have more respect

Answer 2

I was raised as a Christian, in an upper middle class suburb of a midwestern city. I went to church on Sundays, sometimes Sunday nights. Never on Weds. I grew up in an area where all the Dad's wore suits to work and I was probably 11 or 12 before I realized all men didn't wear suits to work. I think my parents had pretty strict discipline and my dad was a kids should be seen and not heard type. I never knew anyone who got pregnant and never saw anyone prego at my HS. I took a drink or two in HS, but always got busted. My parents were on top of things.

As for how I raise my kids. We go to church on Sundays, sometimes Weds if we are participating in a class. I think all the things you listed and I am trying to "raise G rated children" in an "r rated world". I think my hubby and I are more cuddly than my parents were. But I think both my kids really need the affection. I think we try hard to keep the kids in line, but I also think we are more lenient than my parents were.

I grew up in the mid west and live in the south. I find the south to have looser morals, smaller clothes, and worse schools and higher teen prego rates. So, this is a big concern for me with my kids.

Interesting question.

Answer 3

I grew up in a small town in Illinois. But compared to my friends I believe that I was grown up the more traditional way, that it once was. Dad worked and mom stayed home, all of my friends parents.. both worked. We had to go to church when we were little. My brother and I were taught at a young age to have respect for the elderly, like if we had to wait at a reataurant and we were sitting, we would get up and let them sit there. We were always responsible for cleaning up our toys. I remember going over to a friends house in 1st grade and after we were done playing she just left while i took the time to make sure everything was picked up, she thought i was crazy. My parents raised us very well. There were many of times when we did go out to eat, that after the meal people would come up to my parents and tell them what wonderful kids we were, we never yelled or screamed, or ran around the table.
Yes I plan on raising my children like my parents did me have respect for people, learn responsibility at a young age, but I just wish that they will have one of the best childhoods.

Answer 4

I grew up in quite a horrible atmosphere. My dad was an alcoholic and regularly verbally and mentally abused my mum. We were moved round from country to country for years until finally settling down back in England. I have trouble making friends because of this and was regularly bullied.

I have vowed NEVER to let any of my children have to go through that like I did.

Answer 5

My father was strongly intent that we would not be religiously brainwashed. My mom thought she owed our souls to the Catholic Church. Thankfully, dad had a better argument - facts on his side and all.

Nonetheless, we were raised very conservatively. My parents controlled the music I heard and the books I read until I was a mid-teen and even then I discussed everything with them first. Dating wasn't allowed except in groups until age 16. Helping around the house was expected.

Our house was loving and happy, lots of fun and good times.

I raise my children with the fun, the love, the happy times, the expectation that you help your family, but not with spanking, and not with any religious brainwashing.

Answer 6

I will raise my kids the way I was raised. I had strict parents but, they were also very loving. I think that they did a good job with me and my sister & brother.

Answer 7

I'm childfree by choice, and do not wish to have kids.

I was raised in the Lutheran Church. I was baptised and we went to church every Sunday. My siblings and I were raised right.

Answer 8

WOW! I do not raise my son like I was raised. My father had a bad temper, we were spanked(not beaten), did nothing as a family, mom worked and dad didn't....I could go on and on. I raise my son to respect everyone, we don't hit him, we do tons of things as a family, my husband and i rarely fight and if we do it isn't in front of Ty....so I raise him quite differently.

Answer 9

I don't even have kids cuz I'm too young, but, my parents raised me with respect, and they never fought with eachother. If you yell at your wife/husband all these terrible things, your child will remember it for years on, then that's what they'll pick up from you.

Answer 10

ok where did this come from?