When a guy is single, I wont want him, but as soon as he get a gf, Im ready to be all over them
2006-09-24 16:02:02 · 26 answers · asked by goldieluxxx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can get a guy with a gf, I just wanna no y I want 1 in the 1st place
2006-09-24 16:04:58 · update #1
You may still feel like relationships are a game and you only want something that is a challenge to you. If someone already has a girlfriend, you may feel like you are not only winning him over to your side but also beating someone up mentally in the process. Also, you may think that a person isn't worthy of your attention if he doesn't have a girlfriend already because then no one wants him.
2006-09-24 16:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by IC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,It sounds like u have some insecurity issues.u only want ones that are take cause they don;t scare u.and u want the challenge of seeing if u Can get them as well and its like a game a way to see if u can win.Its about the challenge and the winning not the person.U need to stop and think and would u want someone to treat as if u where a prize to be one and would u want someone after your mate just because they where with u.I doubt it so think of those things before u act next time.
2006-09-24 23:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid of committment? Did an important male figure in your life,maybe YEARS ago,let you down,big time?? I'll bet you think you really want your own guy,yet...look what you are doing??? You are a smart person and have realized your pattern. That's good. Now the next step is to change this behavior...assuming it is not bringing you what you ultimately want. I suggest you speak with a good therapist. Get to the bottom of this before you waste many years in a never-ending merry-go-round ride of unhappy experiences. Good luck,friend.
2006-09-24 23:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, at first you thought if he was good enough for you he'd already been taken, unless something was wrong with him. But once he's taken you can rest assured nothing was wrong with him. Only one problem now, he has a girlfriend. Take a chance with someone that isn't taken.
2006-09-24 23:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh I do that too....and then I get them and I don't even feel guilty afterwards...I want what I can't have...and if another girl is dating him you know that it means he's hot or something is good and society aproves of him...cause I always dump a guy if my friends say he's ugly no matter what I think...good luck
xoxo
Kelli
2006-09-24 23:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're afraid to make that leap.
Having someone 100% can be scary....there are no excuses why it didn't/wouldn't work.
Therapy is always thrown out but sometimes it's a good way to find out why we won't let ourselves be happy.
2006-09-24 23:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just like the thrill of taking some other woman's guy, can only lead to trouble, it means you have a lot of instability in your own life, instead of taking another woman's guy, i suggest you try a few single bars, i mean would you like it if some other woman took your guy?
2006-09-24 23:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple! u want 2 know why she has taken him its the thrill of seeking and destroying we only look good when someone else already thinks that we look good. u want 2 know what we did or have that makes that particular girl want that guy that u didnt want b4.HOMEWRECKER lol jus kidding, we should mate.
2006-09-24 23:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thrill of the chase (in other words) Want what you can't have.... the desire to work for something - grass always greener on the other side.
2006-09-24 23:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Tara J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the challenge of getting someone elses property.
it probably is an insecurity problem too.
2006-09-24 23:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋