I was picked on a lot in school. I thought I didn't stand up for myself because I ignored the insults and regret not fighting back. I realized this and now with people at work, I have started to be sarcastic back to them when they insult me to let them see I don't like what they say to me. I know they like to see me angry and want me to hurt them. But I don't give them the satisfaction of me being angry.
Any other tips on how to stand up for myself. Am I doing the right thing?
2006-09-24 15:55:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The only reason that they keep doing it is becasue they see that it makes you mad. people are weird that way. don't dignify their comments with answers and if you stay calm and collected then they might leave you alone. they don't respect you because of it. i think that by not getting mad all the time you are doing the right thing. say something witty back to them and point out something about them that is not so good and see how it affects them. whatever you do, don't be submissive to their ignorance. you are probably an amazing person but they don't think that you can help yourself. try taking what they say into consideration and going along with it and then turning it into something really insulting to them. reverse psychology is always fun.so go, and be defiant to the assholes you work with! good luck and let me know what happens!
2006-09-24 16:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by kaleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that you think people like seeing you angry? Why do you think you were picked on in school? Most of the time, when people are mean or bullies, they do it to feel better about them selves. Kill them with kindness! It REALLY throws people off guard, and shifts control of the situation to you. Plus you feel better about yourself when you just walk away. Example-Dang you've got a big nose! Yeah I know ain't it a hoot? But if there's a gas leak, I'm gonna be the first one outta here! By the way i really like your cologne! Then just walk away. Good luck.
2006-09-24 23:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your self image first and then you will naturally know what to say and do in those situations. All those things come from the inside out. If you are confident and sure in yourself then people will mess with you less and less. Then you will be much more comfortable in standing up for yourself.
2006-09-24 23:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Physical force always beats sarcasm. Find an element of truth in what they say, agree to it, rephrase it, then, insult them 10 times worse. For instance. "You're fat." "That's right. I am fat. And you are ugly. But I can lose weight....." If that doesn't work, try gutting them with a fish knife.
2006-09-24 23:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by IKnowAll 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be assertive not aggressive. When you learn the difference and practice assertiveness you will avoid hurting people (if they do get hurt it's not you doing it). You don't have to get angry to stand up for yourself.
2006-09-24 23:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are insulting you at work they are being very unproffesional... I think you are doing the best thing you can but sometimes sarcasm appears to be defensive as well... i think its the best way to go but be careful with that. I can't believe you have to put up with such idiots, you must be really strong to be able to take that...
2006-09-24 23:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Meemah 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it matter what they're saying. if they are being honest in the things they say to you then you shouldn't get mad. you need to stop thinking of them as your enemies, they're just people. you need to understand why they're doing what they're doing, and think of how they view you to know how you should react.
2006-09-24 23:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by kayli r 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try telling them straight up i'nm not here to take this crap. if they won't stop, then report it to the boss. fists will make things worst. try telling them sternly to stop their b.s.
2006-09-24 23:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't give in to them, if they touch you, flatten them to the floor fast. pay no heed to their ignorance if you can.
2006-09-24 23:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Boliver Bumgut 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋