my luck it will be in their 40's
2006-09-24 15:51:25 · 30 answers · asked by jennifer e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
40's... yeah thats about right.
Even then, they won't do what you want em to.
2006-09-24 15:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by cynthetiq 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-09-24 22:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Emily rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At age two, children begin developing the ability to permanently store information. Everything is data, including things they should and should not be doing. They have no concept of right or wrong. They don't even "BEGIN" developing that ability until puberty. Until that time, they learn through repetition. Studies on child development shows that it takes at least six times for something to become a permanent memory. So, when they do something you don't want them doing, and you discipline them, just for them to go back and do it again, it is not because your discipline didn't work. It's because they didn't remember that last time, for just repeat the exact same discipline for the exact same offense. This system should be used well into their teens. It's the way to train the brains what is right from wrong, so that when they move into that stage, they have the needed data to make the right decisions.
Unfortunately, this requires one very important ingredient, an involved parent who is there for them, especially during their formative years. Putting children into daycare adds only another confusing element to their childhood, making it even more difficult for them to have what they need to move in to adulthood. It is enough to have two adults setting their paths in life, but add three or four more, through the use of day cares, creates whole new problems. A child needs at least one parent, it doesn't matter which, to be home for them. Yes, I know you can't have all those nice things unless both parents are working, but what you won't have is a child who is fully prepared to adulthood. If you both have to work, than bring another person into the family to be the home parent for the children. Yes, I know what that sounds like, but the children must have the best.
2006-09-24 23:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They begin minding the second they realize they aren't in charge. Children need boundries and actually want them. It gives them stability and security. It is very easy to make a child mind. Tell them what you expect of them. If they insist on doing the opposite then you tell them why they are being punished and how important it is for them to be obedient. Everybody must answer to someone else. Then pick a punishment suitable for the deed. Time out is the best for a young child. When they do good be sure to praise them. Just remember who is the adult. They might cry, pitch a royal fit, etc. That is no reason to give in. Consistency is the key. They will appreciate it in the long run.
2006-09-24 22:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-24 22:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by amberharris20022000 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-09-24 22:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by moolie_wfo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too soon to start teaching children to behave. We start teaching them as soon as we bring them home from the hospital how to get what they want. If we run and pick them up or stick a bottle in their mouth as soon as we hear a squeak out of them, they learn that all they have to do is fuss and we will pick them up or feed them so by giving them a few minutes to work out their problems, we teach them that they won't get their way by fussing. I'm not saying that you shouldn't comfort them if they are in pain, hungry, wet or need to burp but make sure that is what they are fussing for before training them that you will jump for every little whimper.
When they are old enough to understand the word no, they are old enough for you to tell them no when the situation warrants it.
If you do not teach them as soon as they understand, they probably won't mind you even at the age of 40.
Good Luck and enjoy your precious little ones because they grow up way too soon.
2006-09-24 23:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust me I have four from the ages of 5 to 18 and even I still don't mind my parents. The only thing you can do is try to install the best values you can in them and keep on loving them.
2006-09-24 22:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by bigkountryogre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i was taking care of myself when i was 13, i moved out of home at 16 and now i am 18 and ive just moved back into my mothers and i cook, clean..I do EVERYTHING i even pay bills, do grocerys, she works and expects everything to be given to her on a silver platter. Mind you she is only 39! I'm saving for my first home so i have to put up with this for another 4 yrs, aswell as looking after my toddler it can be difficult.
2006-09-24 23:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have children and have yet to see the day that any of them mind. They seem to think they are immune to the consequences of their actions and that the world owes them. Both grown children and the ones still at home.
2006-09-24 22:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time? Good luck!
Most of the time? At birth. Or I am just really lucky.
2006-09-24 22:53:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋