If yes, at what age?
What are the best techniques?
If they get angry at having been lied to, how can this best be dealt with?
Should I have encouraged belief in santa at all?
2006-09-24 15:50:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hi, I am 11. I have never been lied to about Santa, or the easter bunny or any of the Pagan related holidays. We do not celebrate them. No we are not JW's. I have never felt left out or disappointed when any of the holidays roll around, as a matter of fact quiet the opposite. I hear my class mates talk of what Santa is going to bring them, and when it is over said and done with, half didn't get what they wanted and the other half are disappointed because they found out that Santa is not real. I wonder to myself if my class mates know that their parents lied to them about a Santa claus, if they wonder if maybe their parents didn't lie to them about God. Makes one think.
2006-09-24 16:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kaidy(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all come to the age when we realize the truth about Santa I would not make it a point to tell them and as for being lied to I do not know of anyone who ever felt that way and I still believe in Santa and he is a good soul and anything that is good and of love should be encouraged
2006-09-24 22:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by jk poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your children have a beautiful childhood with lovely memories. Don't you still believe to some extent? I do !!! They won't be mad at you as long as you don't take the magic from it.
Read the famous old newspaper article to them "Yes Virginia, There is a Santa Claus"
I'm sure you could get a copy of it on line somewhere.
It will let them know without taking the magic and beauty.
2006-09-24 22:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Diane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were all lied to but are we angry at our parents? HELL no! that's a Christmas tradition! They will figure it out on their own, probably from kids at school around a certain age. I think my kids wanted to beleive even though they kind of knew it was bull. It's all in the spirit of how it's done. Just treat it lightly. And REALLY-Santa DOES exist doesn't he??????? I still believe.
2006-09-24 22:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax dude, you'll mess them up more if you waste time worrying about it......Can you prove there isn't a St. Nick? Do you teach them the real reasons behind christmas? They believe in EVERYTHING when they are little......they start to develope their own minds and see more truths as they get older. Don't worry about it, they aren't going to be mad and want to know why you lied to them.......they are still going to give you a list for SANTA at Christmas even when they know its you! Kids need fun things to believe in....let them be kids.
And....take this as an example.....we lie to our kids all the time. They walk in on their parents having sex, we don't tell them it was sex. They ask where babies come from, we don't give them all the details do we? You give kids the information they need, and only what they need.
2006-09-24 22:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ain't christian and I don't believe in Santa but I do think you should let them work it out themselves, it's part of all the fun of being a kid, it's the same with the fairy that steals your tooth when it falls out, when they get older kids understand the truth and they don't feel cheated or lied to.
2006-09-24 22:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by yafit k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't have. Be honest and tell them the truth.
When you tell them about Jesus then they will say you told us that about Santa Clause and he was a bawl faced lie.
Santa doesn't know if you have been good or bad and why does rich kids who are spoiled rotten get all the gifts and poor kids no matter how they act don't get any.
2006-09-24 22:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, they'll figure it out for themselves, with no harm done to their psyches. It's virtually a cultural rite of passage in today's America.
If they're still firm believers by the age of ten, beware. At the risk of sounding jaded, I'd hazard a guess that by that age they are humoring the parents (and milking the game for the swag potential).
We reared two kids, currently happy, well-adjusted young adults, who never much believed in Santa, as desperately as their father and grandparents wanted them to.
Their mother, you see, is a Born Cynic who denounced Santa as "nonsense" when she reached the tender age of six.
I never once communicated this attitude to my kids, overtly or otherwise, for fear of spoiling their innocent fun, but by golly, they picked it up and ran with it before they were out of footie pajamas, both of 'em. Apparently cynicism is genetic. heh.
2006-09-24 22:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question...i was unsure and asked my mother at an early age if what the other kids were saying about no santa and all were true...she said yes....I was mortified...I'm 57 now and I still refuse to believe that there's no santa.
2006-09-24 22:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them get too old before you let them know, maybe 8 or 9 at the latest. And if they ask you straight out, answer them honestly but gently.
2006-09-24 22:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋