I'm a pretty shy girl. Actually, a really shy girl. I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to start a conversation with a guy that you dont really know that well. I see this kid pretty much every day, and he seems really sweet and fun, but I'm so incredibly shy that I would never find a way to talk to him, unless I was in a big group (which I doubt would happen). Does anyone have any suggestions?
2006-09-24 15:42:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've got a suggestion. It's not one you'll like though. Social anxiety is tough to deal with. You 'have' to deal with it though. I'm not saying get out there and be the most social person around, but you do need to push yourself. Take baby steps. Find reasons to just have a bit of small talk with this guy. Even if it's for only twenty seconds. Enough of it will build up a familiarness between the two of you and give you more to talk about with him in the future. As you do this more and more you 'may' find yourself coming out of your shell, but if that's not the case if you atleast do what I suggested you will slowly get to know him and as I'm sure you know; once you get comfortable around certain people being shy isn't as big of a factor. So approach him. Chit chat. Do it again the next day. Pretty soon he may start coming to you and you never know where it'll go from there.
2006-09-24 15:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand you're shy, but you're not going to get very far without actually talking to him, you know? Don't worry about it. Just walk up to him and say "hi," or "what's up?" or something cliche like that. Who knows, ha might carry on the conversatiion from there if you're the type who doesn't know what to talk about. Just talk to him, you'll never get to know him if you just sit there thinking how nice it would be if he was your's. Make it happen! That's the only way to get past being shy. As an ad says (I'm not sure which one (bad memory)) "Just do it!" But, really, good luck. I hope this helped.
2006-09-24 22:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by T.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you see him everyday, well, just go up to him and jokingly ask, "Are you stalking me?" When he looks at you like you're crazy, tell him you're kidding, you just noticed he was always around. There, the ice is broken. Then, if you're both going to classes, keep walking beside him and ask what class he has next. Small talk is fine for you too for now. If you're outside of school, ask him where he's headed & go the same direction. If he's interested in you too, he'll love that you made the 1st effort to talk to him. Guys shouldn't always have to make the 1st move! They get shy too.
2006-09-24 22:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by tigerlily27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are soming from. I always find it hard to start a conversation with someone, especially someone you don't know cause it's like...where to start? One thing that I always do is the basics, "What's up?" "How are you?" Then once you get them into a conversation, find out something about them. Make them feel like you are interested or curious (which if you like him, I'm sure you will be) and ask something about what sports he plays, what classes he's in...Something that you can respond about yourself, and just keep it going. Keep it light, and friendly, and don't seem like your pushing it.
You'll do great! Just takes courage.
2006-09-24 22:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kristi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, getting a guy to notice you and talking to you are two VERY different things. If you want to talk to him you're already of to a great start because you know NOTHING about him. So no question will seem dumb. If you see him with a book, asking him what he's reading. *If you go to school together (if you are in school) maybe ask him if he would like to eat lunch with you and talk about...movies...or...favourite games. Now, if you want to get him to notice you parade around in front of him naked.
2006-09-24 22:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
bump into him on ""accident"" and make sure ur carrying a book or sumthin. thn when u bump in wit him hell help u pick up ur books then u guys will start talking =]
2006-09-24 22:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by xdragonx534 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just write a note and give it to him,or put it in his locker.
Smile alot, and say hi.
2006-09-24 23:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by cutemay1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same this has been happening to me.
but i try to smile and look at them straight in the eye.
if they are intereseted they will come up to you.
but even so it helps even if you have just one friend with you.
2006-09-24 22:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by kt_thoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you sit down, say hey to him, and dont forget to smile and look at him in the eye.
2006-09-24 22:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by babsa_90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep bumping into him, if it's meant to be, he will talk to you.
2006-09-24 22:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by That Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋