What color should parents wear?

Question

Here is what everyone else is wearing:
Me: White dress, possibly with champagne sash
Groom: All white tux
MOH: Burnt orange dress
Best Man: Black suit, white shirt, burnt orange tie
Bridal & Grooms attendants (both male): black suits, white shirts, champange ties
Flower girl: Champagne dress, style matching MOH

I want our moms to wear champagne dresses. Is that too much since that is actually one of the colors of the wedding? Should they just compliment, rather than match? And what should the fathers wear?

I should have mentioned that we are not allowing them to pick their own dresses, because my FMIL has horrible taste (trust me, her own sons have to approve her outfits before we go anywhere. She dresses like she is 13.) And she showed me the dress she wants to wear...it's off white! I said no. (Trust me, we're very close and she doesn't take offense)

I don't see a problem AT ALL with asking them to wear a certain color...they're going to be in a lot of pictures and should at least "go" with the bridal party. I'm just asking if it is too much that they actually match.

Answer 1

sounds like your best bet since they will be photographed is to choose a colour that will compliment the bridal party i would say it would be better to stay away from white off-white beige champagne colours it would be more effective to if they didnt dress like the bridal party as you want them and yourself to stand out. Why not go to a bridal shop and view their selection of MOB MIL dresses that will compliment and they can dress age appropriate. As for the FIL FOB speak to the company that you are renting tuxes from they might be able to recommend a really nice complimentary colour and who knows you might even get a deal for renting a certain number of tuxes! Best of luck to you hope it all works out and im sure everyone will look smashing !!!

Answer 2

The mom's are never supposed to match - just complement each other. If your mom wears a champagne dress than the groom's mom should wear maybe burnt orange or a color that complements her. If the mom's remember, they are in all those group pictures so they don't want to stick out or clash. My son got married two weeks ago in a purple, silver and white wedding - the mob wore a lovely purple dress that was a few shades darker than the bridemaid's dresses. I had such a hard time finding a dress, I finally found a cream color pants outfit with shots of silver in the material and big flowy pants. We had corsages with purple in them and purple ribbon. It looked really pretty. The bride, my sweet new daughter-in-law told me she didn't care what I wore, just that I was happy to be there. My son said he didn't want me to wear black. So it worked out great.
Good luck to you and take care of yourself - the stress is tough!

Answer 3

Have them to wear the color of the wedding. Think about it, when you take your pictures, you don't want all of the wedding party to have on burnt orange, champage, and black(tuxedos) and your mom have on a red dress and the fmil have on green dress. My wedding colors were sage green, silver and white. My mom wore a gray (silver) dress and my mom-in-law wore sage green dress.

I'd say, figure out which color looks good on them and have one mom wear a champagne dress and other mom wear a burnt orange dress or similar to that color. The fathers should wear a black tuxedos or black suit. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Have the fathers wear a nice tux, and a champagne colored dress for the mothers sounds really nice. That is a nice color too. You can have the fathers wear a champagne colored tie to go with the mother's dresses.

It sounds like a nice wedding. I wish you the best!

Answer 5

Whatever looks best on them. As far as I know, the mothers of the bride and groom don't have to match the rest of the wedding party. Just make sure that they communicate to each other what they are planning to wear so that they don't end up wearing the same outfit! Perhaps invite them to shop together (withor without you), so that they can find things that will work, and it allows them to bond a little more before the wedding.

Answer 6

If they've agreed to let you pick the color and dress, then fine. Just do it. Black suit for fathers, with tie that matches mother's dress. (matching show hankerchief as well)

I owned wedding business for ten years. One had MOB show up in sparkly silver full lenth gown; looked like a chandelier and out shown the wedding party! You do what you think is right, it is your wedding, Bravo to Mom, too for letting you make this decision.

Answer 7

I'm sorry if the sounds in anyway offensive, but why do they have to wear what you pick out? Are they a part of the actual wedding party? If not, let them wear what they want. Be grateful you are blessed with your parents attendance! Weddings that have too much organization always end up with someone dissapointed because of minor mistakes! Just try to enjoy this very special day! Congrats!

Answer 8

The fathers can wear exactly what the attendants are wearing.

The mothers should wear whatever they want, as long as it is not white or off white or burnt orange. The mother of bride traditionally chooses first and then the mother of the groom should not wear the same color.

Answer 9

i would go with complimenting each other....... i think champagne is a beautiful color but it would also take away from the bride, YOU..... try a softer version of orange, if they look good in that color..... you need to pick a color that is good for them, you do not want them to look washed out in the pics..... if it is not a formal wedding tea length dresses would look great.... maybe a very soft orange with chanpagne over coats..... and as for dads, well black suits with champagne shirts and orange flower on lapel...... mix and match....... good luck, congrats and God bless

Answer 10

It's rude to tell your elders what they can and cannot wear. Let the moms dress themselves. They are adults. They do not have to coordinate with each other or with the bridal party.

You're all worried about colors, when the glaring problem I see is that you're mixing levels of formality, which is much more of a problem. Suits are for informal, tuxedos are for formal. Is your wedding formal or informal?