My boyfriend does a terrible job of fingering me, do i tell him i've been faking it or just deal with it?

Question

We've been together for 4 months and he loves to please me, unfortunatly he does just that. I think he's starting to realize i've been faking my orgasms. Should i tell him or continue faking it? And how do i show him how to do it properly without hurting his feelings?

Answer 1

Oh boy. I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years, we've been through this before. Men appreciate when you tell them what you like. If he's doing something that you don't like ( i am assuming that he cares about you) and you tell him he will fix the problem. Guys never want to feel like they can't please their woman or perform. Tell him what you like, what turns you on, etc. Ask him the same thing so he doesn't get upset. This should work. Just let him know what's. Don't tell him you been faking it, keep that to yourself.

Answer 2

first of all, do NOT fake it. The reason he likes fingering you so much is because he thinks you enjoy it a lot. if you are faking orgasms he obviously thinks you like what he's doing when in fact you don't. try to get him to do it different ways. just experiment and see what happens. I think you'll be very happy with the results.

Answer 3

If he doesn't know what he is doing after 4 months it will never get better.

Pick a time when he is in a good mood, out of bed, and tell him you have to tell him something. Be kind about it but let him know he is not doing it right. No man knows what really works for a woman unless she tells him.

Just do it and if he truly cares for you he will be very happy you did.

Answer 4

He'll never learn he's doing something wrong if you don't tell him. If you've been faking it all this time, he's gonna go right on thinking that whatever he's doing it pleases you. Thus, why stop doing what works? Be candid w/ him. You can be honest without hurting his feelings.

Answer 5

well, yes this can be hard to tell your b'f that he really is doing a poor job. However, instead of telling him, when he starts to finger you, when he hits a spot that feels good, say "Oh yeah, I like that" and encourage him to do that and also take his hand and move it up to your clitoris and telll him you want him to play with you there...this way you are not telling him that you are not being pleased but instead indirectly telling him that you like what he's doing.

Answer 6

the foundation of any relationship is trust and u cannot trust some one who lies to u. a mans sexuallity is what makes him a 'man'. and if u r faking it u r making him fell inferior
tell him. he might feel hurt first but then u just ask him to do try another way and tell him what feels right.
there is no other way than be staright forward

Answer 7

When he is pleasing you, tell him how much you appreciate it, and then say, "Do you want to know what really drives me wild?" and then proceed to take his hand and show him. Make sure you come up with some really enthusicastic encouragement, like moaning, saying oh yeah, like that, more, or whatever to let him know when he is doing it right.

Answer 8

Oh m ygosh..my boyfriend.wel ex now, but he used to do a weird thing to(not finger, but he'd hump)..weird yes I know..
anyways..I have no idea what to do.I was in the same boat I was afraiad to hurt his pride nad stuff..just like when he does it..don't fake..just don't do anything.i mean let him know that it's not getting you off..and see if he changes it

Answer 9

If you don't tsay something, you will eventually get fed up with faking. Tell him he's doing fine, but offer some "suggestions".

Answer 10

their is no way to break it easliy but if i have learned anything that a boy hates to do things like that and not be good at it or be lied to. it would be best to tell him and work together but make sure you dont make him feel bad for not knowing.