I like a guy that is apart of my group. We have hooked up in the past, and he always goes out of his way to talk to me or spend time with me, more than anyone else in the group. He has a girlfriend which he lies to, to spend time with me. Should i tell him i like him more than a friend? Or is our relationship purely platonic?
2006-09-24 15:14:27 · 31 answers · asked by Nik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GO GO GO tell him you love him and stuff !!!! Platonic would be to boring! I am sure he loves you too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-24 15:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Snow surfer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've 'hooked up' I assume you mean making a physical connection. So I'm guessing he knows you have some feelings for him.
If this is the case, he's probably using you. Sorry to seem pessimistic, but that seems logical.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Try to put yourself in his girlfriend's place. How would you feel? I think he's playing you both for fools.
If you still think you have feelings and there's a chance then let him know your thoughts. However you should be clear that though you are interested, you are Not interested in the current set up. Good Luck.
2006-09-24 15:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by PC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that you like him, but don't do anything with him why he has a girlfriend. If you're going to be together, you don't want to have to share him, & that'll give you a bad rep. He shouldn't be lieing to his gf to spend time w/ you - is she jelous of you... or is he the cheating type? Does he give you hints that he likes you more than a good friend? Why hasn't he asked you out before? Think about that before you decide if he's the guy for you.
2006-09-24 15:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What EXACTLY do you mean by "hooked up"? If you mean what I think you do, then your relationship is already beyond platonic. If that is the case, why do you want to be an "item"? You already know that he cheats and lies to his girlfriend(s). Do you think he would be different with you? Apparently you have been complicit in his lies to his girlfriend.... why? He's using you both.
2006-09-24 15:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by victronia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know, i've been in your situation before. a couple of years ago I was hooking up with this guy and he had a girlfriend (she was a cheerleader and i was this little goth girl that wore schoolgirl outfits and dark eyemakeup to school everyday) He started spending lots of time with me, but never in public because people would see us. I really wanted to legitimately date this guy and even got him to take me on a real date (dinner and a movie) and i told him i wanted it to always be like that. If i was going to act like his gf i wanted to be his gf. anyways he quits calling me so much and i finally ask him face to face at a party what's going on. he, while very drunk, tells me if was only a fling bc i looked like an asian schoolgirl (i'm half asian) and that he had no feelings for me. He then called me a whore in front of everyone. I was humiliated. If you don't want to get hurt, my advice is to just get out. just get out now. it's going to be hard, but you'll feel better about yourself if you do. Stay strong girl.
2006-09-24 15:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - you don't say your age, but here's a question for you regardless. How much would you trust him if he breaks up with his current girlfriend because you told him you liked him? Wouldn't you be just a little worried that he would dump you easily when someone else came along? He's already lying to his girlfriend to spend time with you, so he's pretty much a sleaze already. He's going our on her, he'll go out on you.
Find someone who has a concept of what fidelity is, and wants to share that with you.
2006-09-24 15:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that if he was with you he would be "faithful" to you like he is being with his current girlfriend?
If you are a mature person I would let him know how you feel and tell him you sensed this from his as well or were you mistaken. But make sure your friendship can go back to normal if he rejects you and make sure if he wants you to make him break up with his girlfriend first otherwise ur just asking for bad karma
2006-09-24 15:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to talk to a guy like that? if hes lieing to his girlfriend to spend time with you then once you two hook up he's probly going to do the same to you so if you wanna get hurt than ya go for it.
2006-09-24 15:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by matt k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defintely tell him, but don't expect too much while he still has a g/f. Also if he does like you, why hasn't he dumped her? Why continue the lies?
Be prepared that you might end up being the "other girl". Could you handle that?
2006-09-24 15:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by stlou_girl_2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have a relationship. He is using you and his girlfriend, maybe to "hook up" with both of you. Don't be a fool. He is neither a present friend or future boyfriend; that is, unless you'd want him to lie to you and flirt with other girls behind your back.
2006-09-24 15:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by fearslady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I [personally] would not tell the person. I think that he probably can tell. The fact that he is lying to his girlfriend in order to be with you is a big sign. Because of this, I would go ahead and just let him know...see how he feels.
2006-09-24 15:17:17 · answer #11 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋