here's the thing. my bf and i kiss and cuddle. but recently he wants me to grope his you know...well i dont feel comfortable so how do i tell him without him getting offened or anything? i really like this guy too. i dont wanna lose him.
2006-09-24 15:05:16 · 12 answers · asked by bubblegumbabe156 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you think he's moving too fast for you and he either needs to respect your wishes and let the relationship stay where it is now or u will find another guy that will
2006-09-24 15:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you are not obligated to do anything you don't feel comfortable with. He may want that but you do not have to do it. A lot of guys will use this as a start point. When you do that he will get very hot and want to do the same to you. If you allow that he will want to take it to the next level.
Remember this: If you lose him because you will not do this now....you never really had him. He is just going with you to see what he can get.
If he likes you as much as you do him it will be no problem. He may be disappointed but he will stay with you.
Magnify the kissing and cuddling you like by a factor of 100 and that is how much guys like and need sex. It is a driving force almost impossible to ignore. But if he cares for you he will respect your wish and not run. You may have to put up with a lot more kissing and cuddling than you alrealdy do but that's it.
2006-09-24 22:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Tell him that you really really like him, but you've never really been in that many relationships before so you are unexperienced and dont feel comfortable doing that yet. Let him know that you want to go a little slower with him until you are ready. If he really cares for you, he will back off. If he doesn't the he only wants ONE thing and if that happens, you need to get rid of him and fast. Iknow you really like this guy and don't want to lose him, but don't let that scare you there are plenty of fish in the sea and plenty of guys who will respect you and treat how you deserve to be treated.
2006-09-24 22:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that you don't want to move that fast (not while you're in the middle of a cuddling session - after a dinner or something private and calm). Worst case scenario: you lose him.
But think about it, if he's willing to dump you over not wanting to grope his hoo-hoo, is he really worth it? If he's worth it, he'll respect your discomfort. If he doesn't respect you, don't sweat it, there are other guys out there who will.
2006-09-24 22:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by Noes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready for that yet. Just let something like that happen naturally, you shouldn't feel like you have to. And if he can't accept the fact that he's moving too fast and dumps you, than he's not the guy for you anyways. It's best not to feel "forced" into anything.
2006-09-24 22:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know. if he likes you he will respect the fact that you don't feel comfortable doing that if not the hell with him you can find someone elsa
2006-09-24 22:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but does he really like you?? youll no when you tell him no ots gonna be no dont be afraid and rushed into doing something you dont like!! if he doesnt understand then hes in for a good time only youll find someone else youl like !
2006-09-24 22:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the best things you will learn in life is to NOT be afraid to say NO. If you lose him......then he isn't worth your time.
2006-09-24 22:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well bubblegum, if your not ready to do the things hes wanting you to do, and if he really cares for you, just flat out tell him you just can't do that kinda stuff, right now, if he loves you, someday you will be ready, and you will still be with him
2006-09-24 22:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long you've been together? tell him you dont feel ready ready yet...you wanna slow things down coz you like him so much...
2006-09-24 22:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋