I am an almost 14 year old girl weighing around 110 pounds with a height of 5'2". My top part of my body is skinny but my butt & thighs are very big and fat. My parents say I am fat & should lose weigh & they have lowered my self-esteem & now I can't even do anything fun because they told me to lose it but I didn't so they took everything away. But the problem is that that's my body type & I can't change how my thighs look. I have tried losing weight but I always gain it back. I am on the tennis team so I do exercise. I have tried talking to my parents but nothing works. Am I fat or are they wrong? & If they're wrong what do I tell them that i'm fine with what I am & how I look.
2006-09-24 15:02:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
It's hard to not take to heart things your parents say, even though they may be wrong; But in this case I would advise it-DON'T let it get you down. Maybe they are more worried about how they think you are making them appear. After all we are in such a phony, plastic society, that superficiality is trying to take over, it wouldn't surprise me in the least to find out your parents have some friends with a daughter that has a "Barbie doll" body, and are wondering what those parents think. Either that or they have the mindset of TV and how it tries to direct our thinking of what the perfect body looks like. How shallow....They should be concerned for your physical AND MENTAL well-being, and with what the doctor they pay says. Who are they trying to compete with, and what's to be won? There's alot more to be lost . I'm a parent in my mid 30's and this really tix me off, because I do see it among other parents. 99% of the world does not look perfect, don't worry at all, and don't compare yourself to that 1% who only appear to look perfect. At fourteen you still have a lot of emotions flying around, but your head is on straight. Just by the way you've dealt with the question I think that the standards you set for yourself will be right. Trust them, pick your chin up, and move on!
2006-09-24 15:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that your parents are saying these things to you, but trust me your weight is ideal, you don't need to lose any weight at all. All that will happen if you lose weight is you will look even more skinny on top, but your thighs/butt will still look bigger in comprison to the rest of your body, because you can't change your natural body proportions. Your parents are either being very vindictive, as in they are almost bullying you, or they don't have a clue about weight. You don't need to lose any weight, take it from me and try to stay confident, even if they put you down. Adults don't always get it right, and I'm sorry to say your parents have got it very wrong indeed and you need to tell them that, or better still, have them take you to the doctor, who can tell your parents that your weight is absolutely fine and healthy. Take care : )
2006-09-24 16:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are EXACTLY the right weight for your height. I am a nurse so I am speaking from a medical viewpoint. The standard weight charts call for 100 lbs for a woman 5 feet tall and to add 5 lbs per inch so 110 is just right. Your body type is not something you have any control over but it may help to let your parents know that in a woman,the pear shape ( heavier hips and thighs ) is healthier than the apple shape ( larger abdomen with thin legs )because the apple shaped women tend to develop cardiovascular problems more so than pear shaped women. You have not reached your full height yet so your body may slim down even further on its own. Your parents need to ask their physician about this...I bet he will set them straight!
2006-09-24 15:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by jidwg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that you are fat, but the way you describe your proportions, you may be built in such a way that you need to work on problem areas. We all have them! Do you live in a neighborhood or rural area where you can take walks? If so, ask our parents to come on a walk with you. It will help in toning up your body, and giving you and your parents some (it seems) much needed time to talk. Let them know that your feelings are hurt, and that maybe instead of putting you down about your weight, lift you up with some solutions. Good luck!
2006-09-24 15:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by L P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your parents to make an appointment for you with your doctor and bring up the fact that they are telling you you are fat and get them to help you get on a plan that will help you lose the weight (or let your parents know that you are not fat) Doctor may have said something to them and that may have triggered it with them and there is only one way for you to know (see the doctor and talk to them). Good Luck. I went through being called fat by my parents for years and found out 7 years ago nothing I did would have helped me lose weight since I had a bad thyroid and required medication and never received it.
2006-09-24 15:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not fat at all you are probably still growing and you don't need to change anything. Just ignore your parents, really you shouldn't try to lose weight. Tell your parents that you think you look fine and that's the only thing that matters, in other words if your happy that's the only thing that should matter.
2006-09-26 11:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh! You are NOT fat at all! Dang! Your parents are soooo wrong! You should do research on this and present them with the facts. I would tell a school nurse or counselor about what's going on. Maybe they could talk to your parents. Not to get them in trouble, but to just educate them. I'm so sorry! Please don't think you are fat! You are just right. Actually there are girls your age are more like 115 -120. They look fine too.
2006-09-24 15:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by lees girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 5'2" and 110 lbs. I can't imagine you being fat at all. My sister is the same height and weight as you and she is little. I think your parents are being very strict with you about your weight. It's perfect! They need to talk to a doctor who can tell them that you are fine and they need to lay off!
2006-09-24 15:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Marcy T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent I am disgusted that a parent would ever call their child fat reguardless of their body size. It is a parents job to mold their kids, build their self esteem and self worth, all your's are doing is tearing your's down. I would talk to a school councelor or a family member you can trust.
2006-09-24 15:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by channielynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your parents suck. No offense, but that's messed up. When you are 14 you have enough to be self conscious about without your own parents telling you you're fat. The kicker is you *aren't* fat. Having some meat on you is good. Do they want you to look like a skeleton?
...just wow, that's so cold...
2006-09-24 15:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋