My 4-year old is playing a sport for the first time and he gets so frustrated when someone tries to take the ball from him. He cries and he goes to the sideline instead of playing. I have told him that it is part of the game and that he should just try his best. I understand that is part of the age, but how do you teach your child resiliency?
2006-09-24 14:57:44 · 6 answers · asked by Gino 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
maybe he is too young to be on the team, perhaps he could watch a few games from the sideline and he could see how other kids play.
2006-09-24 15:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by la bella senorina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those ideas are good ideas. Also, you should know, this is very common. Kids at that age will run off the field over anything and have a fit. My daughter did, and she is now 12 playing like a pro. Once she scored her first goal at 5, she got over it. Then seasons later we'd walk by fields where younger kids were playing and there would always be one or two having a fit.
Make sure to incorporate a game into your home play, one that recognizes him for getting the ball from you and also for letting you have the ball as a team mate. If you take the ball from him as an opponent and he's upset point out to him that there are other kids on his team who will help him, and that he is able to try to get the ball back himself. But at that age, you may not be successful. But don't give up. There's at least one, if not more, kid on every team at that age who can't handle losing or competition at first.
2006-09-24 15:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that he is not the only person who likes having the ball.
Explain how the other children like to have the ball just as much as he does, and that when he doesn't share, they feel bad like he does.
"You know how you get really sad and you cry when the other kids take the ball? It's because they like to play with the ball, too.
You don't want the other kids to be sad, do you? Try to share with them. Then you can all play with the ball. It makes it more fun that way. :) "
(I'm not a parent, so I'm not sure if that's how you would word it, but it's the best thing I can think of)
Also, reassure him that he will get the ball back. :P
2006-09-24 15:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jalena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice at home with him. Play one-on-one against him and tell him the object of the game is to steal the ball from each other. Let him steal it from you and then you steal it from him. Praise him for stealing the ball and for not getting upset when you steal the ball. You can also play Keep Away - something like "Monkey in the Middle", but dribbling and passing a soccer ball. I hope this helps.
2006-09-24 15:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have playdates at home where he can practice with one child and then he will move up to a group.
2006-09-24 15:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will learn by doing . Just keep reinforcing what you are telling him . He'll get it .
2006-09-24 15:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋