I like to read, good at writing, and a great listener. Yet the only guys who seem to approach me are the jerks I'd rather stay away from. And this guy I really like doesnt even know I exist! I'm also pretty shy and have no idea what to say around a guy. What do I do?
2006-09-24 14:56:02 · 27 answers · asked by Hannah17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does not need to be a very complex greeting to a guy. An idea to say is "Hi! My name is Hannah, and I think you are very cute. Have time to go to Starbucks or insert another place name after school today or another time?"
2006-09-24 14:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a pretty good catch, and you're bound to attract jerks along with gems. It's just a matter of sorting them out, which you seem to be doing. Just be patient, dear. You sound like a very sweet young lady with good qualities. Shyness can be endearing, but it's also a hindrance to your social life. I used to be very shy myself, but here's what worked for me. I used to pretend I was the most popular girl in school, and as such, I'd bite the bullet and go up and start a conversation with boys I liked, even though it scared me to death. But guess what? I'd get a lot of dates that way. You might try it. The pretense does something to the adrenaline and makes you brave for the moment, although when all is said and done, you might collapse. Just kidding! There are lots of things boys are interested in besides girls, that is. They like sports, cars, motorcycles, music -- stuff like that. I know some of those are strictly boy subjects, but at least it would be something to talk about. But if nothing else works, just be patient and be your sweet self. It will pay off eventually. Good luck!
2006-09-24 15:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy you like is really popular and goes out allot it would be very easy for him to overlook a shy girl.
On the other hand if he is shy then the only way you would get together would be to run into each others car.
There are a lot of reasons he would not notice you beside your being unnoticeable. You have to find out where he is first. If you have a friend, that is not shy, have them help you out.
Quite often guys will become interested if they know you are.
Being shy is a very hard thing to get around. I know.
2006-09-24 15:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The single best thing you can do for yourself is to get over being shy and tell this guy you like him and ask him out. If he says yes, take it slow and have a great time. If he says no, at the very least he knows that you exist. Either way, I think you have improved your situation!
2006-09-24 15:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..Depends on the guy for what to say, u just like dont run up to some jock and say "i was wonderin, do u like to build machines and do u know the formula of pie" Lol, what to ask kinda seems on the type of person they are, which can usually be applied by a quick easy judgement. But just be you and talk about anything u AND him might find interesting, and try to be smooth about it. and if u wanna be noticed, u gotta stand out..like do something that will get u noticed lol.
2006-09-24 15:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time, you sound really Young, when the right guy shows up you will know. Listen to your instincts and stay away from the jerks
2006-09-24 14:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by sofora k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing u have gotta do is try and overcome ur shy behavior ... try and gain confidence ...use simple techniques like talking in front of the mirror ,etc to gain confidence. if u have self confidence it will be easier for u to interact with People .. and specially of the opposite gender. u say that u are an intelligent person .. so use Ur intelligence positively... make urself heard .. specially in 'that particular guy's' presence. if ure intelligent ull definately gt noticed. use wat virtues u have to attract him ,i.e. ur good skills of reading writing etc .. u will surely get noticed.
and btw .. no one is unnoticable (unless ure invisible) lol ..... uve just gotta get urself noticed .. thats it ...
tc and all the best
2006-09-24 15:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by MUFADDAL F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest open and direct in expressing your interest in a guy you care about and do not be offended if he doesnt feel the same way. Guys just are afraid of rejection as much as anyone and if they know you are interested you may find they are too.
2006-09-24 14:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by zilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...stay away from the jerks. just say hi to him and take it from there. Tell him he has cool shoes or something ask him about a tv show, just to get some talking going. he's not going to like you overnight it will take some time.
2006-09-24 14:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by Han Solo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and put yourself more "out there" ...you know get out of your comfort zone, take on more activities, sports and interests....in regards to what to say around guys...just be yourself! guys have just the same issues as girls, when hanging out with us girls...so like I said, just be yourself and let it flow from there...make a point to say Hi to the guy you like or just introduce yourself...sometimes you have to be the one make the first step..if it goes good, then all is well, and if it goes bad...well you can chalk that one up to experience for the next time.
2006-09-24 15:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Rugby_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋