Alright, where to start? I've liked this guy, Jared, for a while, and I've never been sure whether or not he liked me... I know he did for a while, but then he told my friend he liked someone else, and I've seen him sitting with her on the bus... Now the problem is, another guy asked me out a few days ago. I've only known him for like 2 weeks, and I really like him, and he's so nice! But now, Jared seems like he's mad at me, ever since I told him I have a boyfriend... I'm so confused! I really like my boyfriend, but I still like Jared too. And I've known him for three years! On one hand, I know it's not fair to dump my b/f for him... I mean, it's his fault he didn't say something to me first, right? But I feel bad liking him and going out with someone else... I don't know, it's like I really want to go out with Jared, but I do like my current boyfriend and I'd feel so bad dumping him!! And I don't want to! I know I can't have both! I don' want to hurt anyone! Please help! Thanks!
2006-09-24 14:42:02 · 12 answers · asked by xxEquestrianxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah......the ignorance of the young. When you say you heard that he told his friend he like someone else. How credible was that? when you hear something ex parte you always have to assume there is some parts miss told or missing. He may like her but not in a way you think. And how can you claim this other guy is your b/f when you have only 2 weeks? Are you that lonely that you have to hop the 1st bus that comes alone? A big part of the whole problem was you so wanting ANY relationship that you failed to do the ground work before hand. And it seem the only reason why you are staying with the current guy is because he is a nice guy(or seem to be)and you'd feel guilty dumping him for Jarad which is who you seem to really want. But when he seem to be "off the market" you got impatient and tried to fill the gap with this other guy. Which you have to let go because you are not totally vested in the relationship. He was basically a stop gap. It is a great disservice to the guy you call the b/f because he thinks you are really into him when you are not. So it is a de facto lie, the relationship with him. And sooner or later it will show because you care for Jarad more. Then how will he feel? You would have wounded him more. Clean break, rip off the Band Aid. It will hurt but have a chance to get back normal quicker.
2006-09-29 20:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been there before. But if you really like this new b/f and hes really good to you I wouldnt give him up and id concider it as Jared's loss. But if you feel you really love Jared than dont let love slip you by. Just let your new b/f that u'r sorry and hope theres no hard feelings and that u 2 can still be friends. Do whats in your heart.
2006-09-24 14:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like Jared didn't want you but now he is jealous. If your boyfriend is a nice guy, stay with him and just let Jared by mad. Hey, it's his loss, he should have made his move before you found someone else.
2006-09-24 14:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk to jared serioulsy about what's really going on. then u'll go from there. and if he's in love with you, give him the chance! u know the kind of guy he is for three whole years and maybe he was just shy or didn't think u liked him back all this time! it'll eat u up inside trust me. so before u get serious with the new guy of yours, find out some detalis asap! it'll be hard and totally unfair for the new guy if u dump him but don't go on pretendig everything's happy when u hav doubts about who to be with! he's recognize something is wrong sooner or later and u'll hav some explaining to do
2006-09-24 14:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by evanescent_eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf had the courage to ask u out after only 2 weeks it means he really likes you and this Jared, 3 years??!!! and nothing, just forget about him.
2006-09-24 15:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by nobodysfool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if all you think about with ur bf is jared then date jared cause your not helping the other guy by thinking he is someone else
2006-09-24 14:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A boy that you have known for 2 weeks and asked you out a few days ago is not a boyfriend, yet. He is an acquaintance who asked you out, apparently just the one time (you weren't too clear).
You have far too much free time on your hands and should be more concerned with school than with whether you have any boyfriend.
Don't be painting yourself in a corner over 1 date. That is dumb and a wee bit possessive in the relationship.
2006-09-24 14:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep you BF ...unless Jared comes right out and says he will go out with you and stay with you for a long time and you believe him. Mostly people like it that people like them and have them to fall back on if something goes wrong in their current relationship. So make sure you’ve got your bases covered.
2006-09-24 14:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bill O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jared missed the boat... I mean the bus... He had the chance and blew it. Jared only wants what he can't have. At least the new guy... with no name.... has at least made an effort to win your affections. Give him a chance.
2006-09-24 14:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk 2 Jared and ask him how come he never said anything 2 u and if he would of liked you he would of said something from the start.just listen 2 what your heart has to say.
2006-09-24 14:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by ~Angel~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋