What's the recipe to make the "perfect" child?

Question

If you wanted to raise a kid the best you could, in your opinion, how would you do it?
What would you teach it?
What sort of rules and boundaries would you set?
What would you keep them away from?
etc.

Just wondering what you think needs to raise a good person, as everyone raise their kids differently it could be interesting.

Yeah, I knew people would react by calling a kid "it". It's simply easier than saying her/him or she/he all the time, and this is only an example-kid, not a real one.
I also know that no kids are perfect, which is why I wrote "perfect".

Answer 1

Do not smoke or do drugs. Make sure that they understand from the beginning that it is WRONG. Tell them that it will not be acceptable for them to do this. Do not allow anyone to smoke in your home or around you and your children.

Teach them to eat healthy from the beginning. give them raw veggies and fruit for snacks, juice for drinks and no candy or soda. My boys did not even know this existed or what it was until they started school. by then, they loved healthy food and even though they enjoy/eat it now sometimes, they love healthy food and that will help them their entire life. Also give them plenty of variety/new things to try when they are young.

FOLLOW THROUGH RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING. When you say no, mean no. If you tell them to not do something and they keep doing it, make them stop, don't just ignore it. When you ask them to do something make sure they understand that you mean now, not when they feel like it. If you start this from the beginning, (a small child knows what no means, they say it themselves.) they will be better off in life.

Teach them to respect themselves and others and to insist on respect from others. This is especially important for daughters. A girl who lives this way, will be less likely to allow men to abuse them and will stick up for themselves in life, relationships and work.

Teach them to stand up for themselves and others that need their help. Don't let the bullies, jocks and cheerleaders be hurtful to them or others who are not as strong willed. And if they become the quarterback or homecoming queen make sure they appreciate it, not flaunt it. Teach them to speak their mind without being bossy or rude. Teach them to be nice to the new kid, they may become your best friend. Someday they may be the new kid and will understand.

Insist that they have an activity outside of school. Scouts, sports, dance, art, choir, drama, music, make sure this involves a positive teacher/role model and encourage....encourage....encourage. Take them to meetings/practice, help them practice, pay for supplies willingly, attend all games, performances, shows, etc. If they want to quit, have them choose something else they want to do instead first.

Be the team mom, room mother, field trip chaperone, anything your child needs. Keep active in your child's school. Get to know your child's teacher and friends. Have their friends over alot and make your home a fun place to be.

Talk to your child. Explain things. If they don't agree with you, that's fine, they have a right to disagree, but that must be done with respect toward you. But they must accept that you are the adult and you make the final decision, wether they like it or not. Make sure that when you disagree and make the final decision that they don't like that you explain to them that you are doing what you feel is best for them and they are not always going to like it.

Answer 2

First a child is not an "it", second there is no such thing as a "perfect" child. If you raise a child treating him/her like a human being, making sure they know without a doubt that they are special and important to you and to the world, if you listen when they have something to say, if you are there for them when they need you, if you laugh with them and play with them and hold them when they are feeling down or sad, if you set a good example by being a good, decent, honest person yourself then your child will grow up to be a good person. If you let them know they have a friend AND a parent in you and you know the difference on when to be the friend and when to be the parent then your child will respect you and therefore grow up to be a respected person! Rules and boundaries depend on the child, the type of household you live in, the area around your home, ect. Basically the old rule about treating people how you would like to be treated is a good rule...cause and effect....if they misbehave they lose priveledges....if they don't work hard they get disappointment...I have found with alot of things letting kids see the consequences of thier own actions is very effective! You have to choose your battles with kids and stand your ground where you feel its most important....its not always good to say no but sometimes you have to, don't be afriad to use this word. Don't spoil your child, give him/her an allowance only after they earn it so they will appreciate you and treat you with respect. Spoiling them only lets them think they don't have to do anything to get everything they want. The most important thing about being a parent and having children is LOVE....have an abundance of that mixed with the right amounts of respect and discipline and your kids will turn out just fine....but never perfect!

Answer 3

I made huge mistakes with my first child...and second also.After 14 yrs, I had re-married...and had another son.
I decided that I would try even harder, as with my other two boys their father was the problem.Now, I tell my son, all the time 'he is soo loved...and so beautiful...and that he has many talents....by this he now knows he is very much loved, and even though my other two boys were also....I have just made it more clear,this time....and rules and boundaries have to be up-held.Its a great pity, we just can't go to page 34 of that book we are given, once we have a child...oops..silly me there is no book!!!..wishful thinking.But with all the pressures of life, it seems we do not try hard enough sometimes....I also have a strong commitment now to church,and my son does also.That makes a huge difference, to any 'stinking-thinking'...one has....in life.A good diet-love-love-love,and its all pretty much a sure recipe!! Oh! there is no such thing as the perrrrfect child.They all are BORN with their own personality,yes even as a baby....and they have their own ideas,yes even as a baby....

Answer 4

I think the recipe is love and displine. I would teach her word searches, how to read, and basic math. I would have her in bed by 7:30 until she turns 7, then she will go to bed by 8, at 10 she will go to bed at 8:30, at 12 9:00, 16, 9:30. She must limit herself on sweets, healthy choices like fruit and frozen yogurt will be available to her. During the summer, she can stay up as late as 11, unless she has camp. Homework must be done before she goes to bed, every single bit that is required to be done. I would give her affection and attention, but respect her personal boundaries so she can have time to herself.

Answer 5

first of all there isnt any such thing as the "perfect" child.. as children are just that children and are going do things that children do..

Love.. attention.. patience.. morals, ...respect for others.. and values.. are the best things u can give/ and teach ur child..

Rules and Boundries theres so many ranging from petty.. to life threatening situations that u give rules and boundries of.. i believe u dont let ur child run wild, i believe that u protect ur children .. but i do also realize that u have to give ur children room to grow , cause if ur overly protective they never learn to fend for themselves and thats the ultimate goal in raising a child is to raise the best human being u can and hopefully teach them what u can before they are 18 so that they can go out on their own.. and make the right choices in life..

You keep them away from things that are damaging to them.. and u teach them the tools of how to react to damaging things when ur not around, u teach them how to get themselves out of bad situations.. u teach them how to not fall into peer pressures.. and u hope that when the time comes that they remember what u taught them.. and thats about the best a parent can do.. is to always do what is right.. no matter if its.. hip/ or cool.. or it hurts ur childs feelings, do what u believe is right.. and pray for the best..

Answer 6

Syrup and yogurt is a sturdy blend somewhat if you're making your own yogurt. we like smoothies contained in the summer season. I by no skill use a recipe. I only pull out the blender and pour in a cup of yogurt. I start up tossing in inspite of fruit I have handy. I sweeten with somewhat honey and skinny it with somewhat milk if needed. in case you want icy smoothies, freeze some milk in an ice dice tray and drop in some cubes. I fried poultry with a beaten Ritz cracker coating at the same time as i realized i changed into out of flour. Now i take advantage of that coating deliberately on celebration. it really is fairly sturdy on breaded beef chops too. after i'd done this a pair of circumstances, i found a recipe in an previous cookbook. So, i wager it wasn't all that unique. some time previous at the same time as i changed into in junior intense college, my suitable pal and that i fried up some breaded dill pickle slices and pickled beets. They were fairly undesirable as I shop in ideas yet neither persons would admit it on the time.

Answer 7

A polite person, mindful of other's feelings. & someont that isn't about breaking people's hearts. but is able to say no to things they know is wrong. honestly there is no such thing as a perfect child... they will all make mistakes at least every now & then.

Answer 8

for perfect children keep your legs together.
from father of 6 and gf of 11

Answer 9

English language
obey the law
drugs and smoking and moderation in drinking

Answer 10

2 tsp of sugar and 1 cup of margarine